Dont no who to talk to...What Can i Do?

[Jay_wolf]

I dont no why im posting this on a message board , but i have no one else to say it to at this time

This weekend was meant to be the best of my life , my girlfriend was ment to come down , i was getting my daytona ..

She calls me on friday , Her son ,,. and My *Son* i loved him and even tho i only saw him for a month before her grandma took ill and she had to move away to spend her last days with her , she was ill with cancer and it couldnt be cured , i loved him so much , he slept on my chest , i called him son ,, he was my boy

She said hes been taken into hospital , his Temp is rocketed , etc , hes been a lil under the weather this week , but eating and fine , but now hes got really ill , im worried , so she doesnt come down for my birthday , but hes stable

by saterday , hes no better , hes not being eating or drinking , hes under watch in the hospital , stable , and ok

Sunday , my birthday , hes hooked up to a machine because his Organs have started to fail , and he cant breathe on his own , they think its Meningitis, hes really not doing so well , shes crying and im crying and im damn worried

Monday .. 2 day  she was ment to come pick me up , to go 2 the hospital with her , and she didnt turn up and i felt sick all day , i managed to get hold of her at 11pm... 9:50 pm .. Dannielle makes the choice to turn off the machine , he dies .... 9 months old and dies from Meningitis , and i dont no what to do , she has lost her first boyfriend of 5 years and her son in the same year... this was ment to be our year and at the start, ive lost my son , i have tears rolling down my face as i type this , it hurts , and im scared shes going to do something crazy ,

Im really sorry to even mention it

Thanks , Jay x

[spc]

Dude, that's horrible.  Some people say everything happens for a reason, but shaZam! like that could make anyone doubt that philosophy.  Hang in there and be there for her, y'all can get through this.

[wreckhog]

I'm very sorry.

[bucks1605]

Man, death is a hard thing to deal with, especially when it's someone who's time was far from over. (My aunt had the same type of thing, her new born passed away unexpectedly)  I just dealt with a death in my family a couple weeks ago, it was a very hard and trying time for everyone. It was especially hard to see people cry who you've always looked up to and never seen in tears. The best advice I can offer is to just be there for her and comfort her and let her do the same for you. Think of all the good times you all shared together and know that he is in a better place now. Stay strong and you two will get through this. We're all here for you, if you ever need support.

[scottpA_GS]

Sorry to hear this mate...

Keep your head straight and you can work through it all. Stay focused on the future 

[Jay_wolf]

Just makes u think , im ok until i think of his little face ,. and his smile ... ive still got all these pics of him on my phone and computer... Its notreallty happening .. but hes gone , its killing me inside ... what sort of god would allow a 9 month year old boy to be taken away from me ... Her Ex boyfriend was serving in the army , and was shot dead one week before rory was born , the only man Rory saw was me , i was his dad and i cant see him anymore

Ive told her im never going anywhere, i offered 2 come down , and she told me she didnt want me to , but i have to , i cant let her deal with this alone , i want to take the train there in the morning , and just turn up and tell her im there.....

Ive been hit by 3 cars , almost got stabbed in a Mugging, Almost electrocuted myself , almost drowned in the sea saving someones life , im pretty sure god wanted me to survive for some reason , yet he took my 9 month old away from me .. he should have taken me instead , ive had 21 crappy years , but i had the chance, his first birthday was in September .. didnt make it

Im really worryed about her , shes not making sense , she told me she loved me , and that she doesnt to loose me 2 , and then i havent been able 2 contact her since...

Im a wreck.. I dont no what to do

[yamahonkawazuki]

jay mate my heart and prayers go out to you and yours. and rory, , sometimes god has a plan, err god has a plan for everything. think if it this way perhaps, god needed a special angel you know hes there with him, so hes hurting no longer m8 

[Jay_wolf]

Thats what she said , He looked so Peaceful, I said hes not feeling any pain anymore , she burst into tears.. I cant believe it

[spc]

Dude, get your ass on a train.  If she doesn't want to see you, sleep on the f%$king porch.  Just get there.

[Jay_wolf]

Your right... Spot on . Im gonna get the train asap , Thanks dude , she cant get that mad at me

[yamahonkawazuki]

Dude, get your ass on a train.  If she doesn't want to see you, sleep on the f%$king porch.  Just get there.

↑↑↑↑↑↑↑ or on your gs even f%$k it show up unannounced ya shes goin nuts, losing a son. get teh FÜCK off line and GO NOW

[Jay_wolf]

Trains dont run for another 2 hours, its 4 am , .. Im going to get ready and just turn up , im not sure where she lives.. Being i havent been to her new place , only the old place , but if i have to ring her a million times to wake her up i will


She seemed like she didnt want me to go there last nite , i dont want to upset her , but i cant just sit here

[yamahonkawazuki]

prayin for yall m8 

[ben2go]

I have 2 boys and 2 step girls.I almost lost my son to an undiagnosable  fever when he was 2 years old.I know the feeling.My son and girlfriend were 240 miles away.She didn't want me to come up.I didn't but I regret not just going.I was the only one of us working at the time and she didn't want me to loose our utilities.Couldn't loose the house since it's family property that was paid for before I was born.I don't know how it feels to loose a child but I know it would kill a part of me.


Jay.Go to her.If she loves you truely, she won't turn you away.She's just suffering more because she literally lost part of herself.That little boy was part of her for 9 months.

[yamahonkawazuki]

I have 2 boys and 2 step girls.I almost lost my son to an undiagnosable  fever when he was 2 years old.I know the feeling.My son and girlfriend were 240 miles away.She didn't want me to come up.I didn't but I regret not just going.I was the only one of us working at the time and she didn't want me to loose our utilities.Couldn't loose the house since it's family property that was paid for before I was born.I don't know how it feels to loose a child but I know it would kill a part of me.


Jay.Go to her.If she loves you truely, she won't turn you away.She's just suffering more because she literally lost part of herself.That little boy was part of her for 9 months.

what he said. still prayin for you and her. PLEASE let us know how it turned out 

[frankieG]

oh jay i am so so sorry.  i can understand why you posted it on this board.  when i was going through my chemo the people here were my support group and got me through it.  the love and generosity of the gstwins family is unmatched.  i am not an overtly religious person but i would suggest seeing your priest or a grief councillor.   life is harsh and we will go crazy if why try to figure out why things happen the way they do.   please do not isolate yourself or self medicate with drugs and/or alcohol...it will just make things worse.  if you want i will pm you my phone number and you can call me collect.

frankie

[The Buddha]

Ohhh ... so sad. You help her through this ... she needs you.
Cool.
Buddha.

[Jay_wolf]

She didnt want to see me , she is a empty shell of a girl , and just... is Empty , no emoution , no feelings , says she loves me , but its gonna be a while before we can see each other again , really not sure how to take it ,

I no she is in a realm of pain that i cant even feel , but shes pushing me away , were gonna keep in contact , and such , but she needs some time , i think its fair enough, even tho its killing me..

Thanks Guys , Uve been a great help , thanks so much

[sledge]

Jay, I am so sorry to hear this.

You need to greive but you also need support and guidance and you have to make an effort to help yourself get through this. There will be counsellors at the hospital who will help you or you can call the Samaritans who will offer support and put you in touch with the right people.

http://www.samaritans.org.uk/

Best wishes and good luck mate.

[ohgood]

There is no way to feel your pain, I'm sure it's terrible.

You go see your son man.

If she slaps you, or swears, or throws you out, don't blame her. Women are weird, and pain makes it harder.

I'm so sorry for you man, let the tears flow, and go. Go !

- Kyle