Big Brother

[Homer]

So, I was in Big Bros/Big Sis for about a year.  Decided to leave the program a few months ago; the mother was garbage.  Hard decision, I loved the kid.  But, he started asking to live with me instead of at home. 
Now, she keeps leaving me phone messages, trying to guilt me back in.  Basically, free daycare for her or she's bored and looking for a fight. 
Either way, I'm wondering how I can have fun with it.

In a nutshell, morbidly obese ghetto trash.  3 kids, dad's a felon (crack, car chase in a Ford Mustang, etc).  Beats the kid, but doesn't leave marks.  He's 8.  Withholds his ADHD medication unless he's home with her, or if teachers threaten to kick him out. 
He begs for the medication, knows he needs it.  Knows he gets in trouble without it, then she beats him.  Tells him he's not worth the expense.  Being the oldest, he's the reason her bad-boy boyfriend left her. 
All the kid knows how to talk about are cars.  Especially Ford Mustangs.  See what I mean? 
Tutored her in community college math and English.  Taught the kid how to cook (we made pies for his mom), how to ride a bike, homework and tutoring every day, sports, etc, etc. 
Tried teaching him how to stand up to bullies.  Took him to Karate classes (which I paid for).  He'll never be able to use it against his worst bully.  Tried to take it out on the puppy we picked out together.  That's where I drew the line. 

I moved.  I can't pick him up on my bike.  Wasn't supposed to drive him around, anyway.  She refuses to provide transportation.  End of story.  Plus, I was feeding him (very underweight, he gets about 1 meal a day), since she wouldn't if he was coming over that day. 

I'm not so great at this drama stuff. 
But, she doesn't get to guilt me.  Help me decide what to do. 

[mister]

The moment Anyone tries to use Guilt Trips I flick em from my life.

That Emotional Blackmail shaZam! fries my grits.  I call them Psychic Vampires - emotionally weak person who drains vital energy from other people.

Sometimes they will give you stuff and them make out like you owe them something because they gave you something first. Other times they try to play on your sympathies. Man, they irk me no end. And so, when I encounter them, I cease having anything to do with them. And my life is free of such dramas. And happier as a result. 

You already know whether or not you're going to let yourself be manipulated back into being her free minder/feeder/surrogate-father no matter what's posted here. So just act on it.

Michael

[yamahonkawazuki]

Im sorry if someone would treat a child like that, i would seriously beat hte snot out of them, im low income fighting a case of osteomyelitis, BUT i would give my meal to the child before id eat myself. children to me are a gift from god, and i treat them as such. ive known both parents for years, father is a good friend but a bad father, would rather buy pot or a hunting license before hed buy teh kids what tehy need. i was in effect being more of a father than he was. what hit home was one day i came by, and the oldest one yelled out "DA.....AARON ! ! !  !" ( hes 6,) that hit his father hard. we had a talk, hes been off the herb for 2 mos now. the oldest is also ADHD , and is a 4ft tall satans spawn sometimes, but still id take a bullet for those children