How to convince the "Boss" that you need a new toy...

[tt_four]

Haha, it's all give and take, "When are you going to build those shelves I asked for??" "I don't know, when you go get the parking permit for the car like I asked 2 months ago...", haha. Having a house means there's always something we could need more than a motorcycle. We also need a new dryer, we could use a dishwasher. There is a ton of remodeling we want to do. I could even use some new pants and sweaters. All those things are technically higher on the 'need' list than a motorcycle but if I'm gonna go to work 40 hours a week I'd like to do something else on the weekends other than building shelves and putting up drywall all the time. Wait until she wants something and start negotiating!

[SAFE-T]

That doesn't sound like married advice to me. haha. Just because you can technically afford to pay for a new bike doesn't mean your other half doesn't still need convincing...
It's a lot less about being able to afford something, and more about justifying it.

Sounds like someone who can't really afford more motorcycles to me.

[tt_four]

I didn't mean you shouldn't take into account whether or not you can afford it if you can justify owning it. I was saying that when you're married, sometimes you have to try to justify something even if you can afford it. Just because I might think owning 2 motorcycles is a good idea doesn't mean my other half has to feel that way whether the money is there or not.

[Shaddow]

I didn't mean you shouldn't take into account whether or not you can afford it if you can justify owning it. I was saying that when you're married, sometimes you have to try to justify something even if you can afford it. Just because I might think owning 2 motorcycles is a good idea doesn't mean my other half has to feel that way whether the money is there or not.

EXACTLY. You see so many relationships where either or both parties just do what ever the hell they want and they wonder why they no longer get on. Its only fair that if we are sharing a life together we share the buying, spending, responsibilities of every aspect of that life. Just because I love cars and bikes doesn't mean my wife has to. Nor does it mean I have to like scrap booking and some inane idea about 6 kids. (We only have one so far our agreed limit is 2. I would have settled for 3 but she came down to 2. Thankfully she never reads forums I post on.) Etc. Justifying isn't about scrapping money together its about showing your life partner that its in their interest too for you to have the item. Besides no matter how much money one has they could always use it to either pay off the home loan quicker, improve the quality of life, invest, increase property value etc. In the long run that makes more sense than buying a bike that deprecates in value the more you use it.

[JB848]

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[madjak30]

I didn't mean you shouldn't take into account whether or not you can afford it if you can justify owning it. I was saying that when you're married, sometimes you have to try to justify something even if you can afford it. Just because I might think owning 2 motorcycles is a good idea doesn't mean my other half has to feel that way whether the money is there or not.

EXACTLY. You see so many relationships where either or both parties just do what ever the hell they want and they wonder why they no longer get on. Its only fair that if we are sharing a life together we share the buying, spending, responsibilities of every aspect of that life. Just because I love cars and bikes doesn't mean my wife has to. Nor does it mean I have to like scrap booking and some inane idea about 6 kids. (We only have one so far our agreed limit is 2. I would have settled for 3 but she came down to 2. Thankfully she never reads forums I post on.) Etc. Justifying isn't about scrapping money together its about showing your life partner that its in their interest too for you to have the item. Besides no matter how much money one has they could always use it to either pay off the home loan quicker, improve the quality of life, invest, increase property value etc. In the long run that makes more sense than buying a bike that deprecates in value the more you use it.

See...the Shaddow knows...

Later.