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Well, I dropped off a family stone at the jewelers yesterday to get it mounted... yup... it looks like i'm about to take the plunge and pop the question.

I've been looking forward to it, but also dreading it because once I put that ring on her finger I officially relinquish any and all control with regards to the marriage.  She and her mom will be free to run wild (and they will)  ;)

So I have a month or two to plan this out... I've been thinking about doing the standard nice-restaurant proposal thing.  Anybody got any other suggestions?

If you do the restaraunt thing, try to let the waiter and/or manager know before hand.  I asked my wife to marry me on Valentines day 2001 at Bertucci's in Springfield.  I got there first and told the waiter what wass going to happen.  He made sure to keep the staff away when I was "doing my thing" and then the manager came up and asked people to join in a toast to us.  It really added to the ambiance.

ya yur family jewels are hers now.  :lol:  congrats on the upcoming proposal.

-ash

Congrats!!

Put a ring in the dessert cake?? Yeah Yeah of course, the ring will be messy... Or put a ring in the rose bouquet... I like some tricks besides just asking, "marry me?" I would like to think a moment..."why is the ring here??" And then... "WOW!!!!!!!!!!"
Thats me!




Does anyone give me a shiny stone????????????????
Waiting!! LOL

Whatever you do, do NOT place the ring in a beverage.  My best friend did that.  He put the ring in her wineglass.  She didn't notice and chipped her front tooth on it.

Also do NOT place in "in" anything.  If you want, have in placed ON a dessert and have the waiter bring it.

Quote from: ConanLloydWhatever you do, do NOT place the ring in a beverage.  My best friend did that.  He put the ring in her wineglass.  She didn't notice and chipped her front tooth on it.

yikes!!!  :o  

this engagement stuff is more dangerous than I thought

You should just go ahead and give her your credit card while you're at it.   :mrgreen:

justice of the peace dude, quick, simple,effective, legal,and cheap.

tux rental is only 100 for decent one and you can return it geting your deposit.


The dress however, thats scarey. seen them cost more then a car and they are only used ONCE? non returnable at that.  i asked my wife and still havent gotten a good,logical answer.

your wearing a dress for total of 2 hours that is very uncomfortable, easy to ruin,and your only gonna use once. why should i pay 1k or better for this?

her and most other wemen give me that blank look as i missed something ever so plain to see and repeat   "its her special day"  "isnt she worth it"

now mind you i got smacked when i said "ok, then she wont mind driving around a 200$  82 ford ltd wagon with bad paint,No AC, and one speaker"

i couldnt afford the wedding she wanted, not by a long shot. we never had a real wedding and for 7 years now, i keep getting beat with it. wheres my wedding.

i digress, good luck dude. hope evryting works out.

Dont take this the wrong way, this is prudent for anyone getting married. READ and UNDERSTAND all the marriage/devorce Laws of your state.

Blueknyt - your first mistake was using the words "good logic" and "wife" in the same sentence.  All me know those words have NOTHING in common  :lol:

(Ducks the thwap from the wife reading over my shoulder)

Best to do the traditional way.On one knee, in public, ring in box, open it for her, ask, and when she says yes, place the ring on her finger and then kiss her. Hiding the ring in stuff is cute, but it's chickening out on really asking the question.

I think most women deep down like a few things to be traditional (weddings and the like especially)

i agree with the traditional approach myself.  I was thinking when we close on the house we will have family come to help us move.  We could take them out to dinner to say 'thanks' and I could do it then, with everyone there.

fortunately, I got a girl who oozes practicality.  She suggested suits instead of tuxes, and a barbecue instead of a reception.

um.. yeah... this one is a total keeper  :)

Traditional way? ok hit her in head knocking her out drag her back to your territory, tie her up with stips of cured skins so she doesnt escape, after awhile tie a small strip around her finger as  a reminder she belongs to you and that You provide he with food, shelter and protection from preditors. but she still gonna make you take the bones out to the edge of the cliff everynight.



Dude, be yourself, dont conform to Norms just cuz thats how its done. Do it in a way that is interconnected to that special something you both share.

the knee thing is nice, but really really over Done. how ever you do it have a 3rd person playing with his/her "New camera" to capture the moment.  

teach her to ride then buy her a bike and tie the ring to the Key and leave it in the ignition for her.  or print on paper will you marry me and tape it to the inside of her visor when she puts her helmet on.

just a thought ya know

I proposed to my wife with a fortune cookie.  we love to eat chinese food.  So it was a really neat thing for her. There are a ton of places on the net that sell personalized cookies.

interesting thing about fortune cookies, the words "in bed" work on every one of them. :lol:  :mrgreen: , an idea here, do it doing something you two do together, then she wont suspect anything, or you could make the proposal here, and have her see it/read it, nah that was a dumb one, butim sure however you do it, it will be something to remember. but a girl with practicality?, where did you find her, does she have a sister? :o  :?  :)

Ok, so if you are considering proposing to a girl who is close with her parents, be sure to do the ask-for-blessing thing.

I called them last night (they live 1000 miles away, so doing it in person wasn't possible) and told them my plans and asked for their "blessing" (not "permission"... that seemed a bit too out of step with the times for me).  

I swear I think they got giddier than she's going to be when I pop the question  :lol:

The asking the parents thing is always a nice touch! I did the one knee in a restaurant thing. I took her to the restaurant we had our first date in and sat at the same table. Went over pretty well! It was a weeknight, so the place wasn't very busy, but we got a standing ovation and cheer from the three other couples in the place! It was pretty funny. The restaurant gave us free appetizers and desserts to congratulate us too, which was pretty cool!

Good luck brother! Take pictures!

Yeah asking the parents takes 10 minutes and means so much to both parties...  My (now) father-in-law and I got a laugh out of it (mostly him at the time) I had to lure him and the mother-in-law out of the room with the gun safe before I told them.  It was pretty funny.  Thank goodness I have in-laws that treat me like their own son.

Marriage has been great to me, it seems like we're still newlyweds but its been almost 3 years.  One things for sure, you'll be so glad when the ceremony is behind you...

best of luck to you!

When I proposed, I had the ring tied to the collar of a stuffed animal. We had several rottweilers at the time and I found a small stuffed one. I did the one knee thing. Funny though, she did not even see the ring until I hinted at it.

hmmm.....maybe this is not a good idea since we are divorced now.

...yeah, mine didn't notice the ring right away either. I got down on one knee and she said, "What are you doing? Get up!". How's that for encouragement!! Once she saw the ring and realized what was happening she started crying and said yes though!

And you will be relieved once the ceremony is over! We've been married 8 months now. It's a hell of an adjustment if you're used to living alone, but it's worth it...most of the time!

How do you know she's the one? I mean, the whole practical-girl thing helps a lot, but divorce rates in this country are sick. Just ask dgyver (my sympathies). I can't see myself getting married for a loooong time. I think it's pretty exciting though. I'd say try to think of a proposal that's original, something creative. But mesh a little tradition in as well. Good luck

marriage = teh deveel

:nana:

Quote from: Ry_GuyHow do you know she's the one?

I have my reasons  ;)

Marriage isn't a slam-dunk... it never is.  The only reason that divorce rates are higher today is because divorce is socially acceptable.  Had it been so in earlier decades/centuries many would have divorced then, too.  Instead they had to live together in misery because they couldn't risk being ostracized by the community.

For me, at least, part of the beauty of marriage is the risk.  If there were any real guarantees then it wouldn't be as meaningful IMO.  If I want a warranty, I'l buy a car.

As for how to know... in my unprofessional opinion there are a few good predictors:

1. how well do you handle money (financial issues are the number one cited contributing factor by divorces)
2. how good is conflict resolution in the relationship?  Can you both find compromises?  Can you have a meaningful dialogue that goes somewhere?  If not, then your chances are not good.
3. are your long-term goals consistent with each other?   If you dream of retiring to a lavish Colorado ski-resort and she dreams of retiring to a shack on the beach, then you are destined for problems, no matter how much you have in common in the short-term.  
4.  Do you even know what your long-term goals are?  If you don't know where you want to go in life, how can you chose a partner to go there with? (note: this was my screw up the first time, so I know what I'm talking about here)

there are lots more factors that can be used as statistical predictions, but they are just that: statistical.  They are all gross generalizations that can't accurately model each individual relationship.

Overall I would say that applying logic to a situation in which love is the primary motivator is usually a futile exercise.

Well congrats.

How about take her out to a nice dinner, and after the dinner take her back to a nice hotel or something like candels and champange with flower petals covering everything and when you guys walk in, give her something to go change into (so you can light all the candles) then when she walks out of the bathroom, be on one knee and ask her then.

Congrats! Let us know how it goes. I like proposal stories.

I want to see what the ring looks like!

Quote from: vtlion

I've been looking forward to it, but also dreading it because once I put that ring on her finger I officially relinquish any and all control with regards to the marriage.  She and her mom will be free to run wild (and they will)  ;)

Look at the bright side, that will giver you more time to ride.  They do all the work and all you have to do is show up.

Quote from: vtlion

Quote from: Ry_GuyHow do you know she's the one?

I have my reasons  ;)

Marriage isn't a slam-dunk... it never is.  The only reason that divorce rates are higher today is because divorce is socially acceptable.  Had it been so in earlier decades/centuries many would have divorced then, too.  Instead they had to live together in misery because they couldn't risk being ostracized by the community.

For me, at least, part of the beauty of marriage is the risk.  If there were any real guarantees then it wouldn't be as meaningful IMO.  If I want a warranty, I'l buy a car.

As for how to know... in my unprofessional opinion there are a few good predictors:

1. how well do you handle money (financial issues are the number one cited contributing factor by divorces)
2. how good is conflict resolution in the relationship?  Can you both find compromises?  Can you have a meaningful dialogue that goes somewhere?  If not, then your chances are not good.
3. are your long-term goals consistent with each other?   If you dream of retiring to a lavish Colorado ski-resort and she dreams of retiring to a shack on the beach, then you are destined for problems, no matter how much you have in common in the short-term.  
4.  Do you even know what your long-term goals are?  If you don't know where you want to go in life, how can you chose a partner to go there with? (note: this was my screw up the first time, so I know what I'm talking about here)

there are lots more factors that can be used as statistical predictions, but they are just that: statistical.  They are all gross generalizations that can't accurately model each individual relationship.

Overall I would say that applying logic to a situation in which love is the primary motivator is usually a futile exercise.

OK, I bite.  I am married for almost 25 years.  Two great kids.  Soooo, here we go:

1. Joint account and don't worry how much they spend on manicure, pedicure, shoes, cosmetics, clothing, etc. etc.  This would let you do the things you want to do.
2. Always say yes dear.  Forget about meaningful dialogues, there is no such thing.
3. You spend the summers at the beach resort and winters at ski resort.  Problem solved.
4. You never know what life serves.  Enjoy what you got today.

If you love her, delete this post, because you don't want marriage advice from GS500 forum.

Cheers

Good job LEVO.

I'll add:

People change.  In 10, 20, whatever years you won't be the same person you are now and she won't either.

The "cute" little quirks will become annoyances.

Statistically marriages that work the best are the ones where the WOMAN was the initiator.  Meaning, SHE fell for you really hard.  If she wasn't all that into you and you had to persue her, well, the statistics are against a long term relationship.

If any of you are trying to change a major part of your personality to appease the other...  Good luck.

There's more...

Quote from: LEVO

If you love her, delete this post, because you don't want marriage advice from GS500 forum.

Cheers

I asked for advice on the proposal... I never said I would take it  ;)

and for those interested... here is the handcuff:

Very nice.  I bet she is very happy!