Not sure if this is the place but here it is. My wife died this morning after a long illness.
After I got away from the hospital and the fussing but well meaning folks I walked into the town and bought a litre of famous grouse and a litre of Cognac. Got them home, sat them down on the table and looked at them for a half-hour. Then I put them in a cupboard. No help at all, maybe if I'd opened one it might have helped, maybe made things worse, who knows.
Long talk with transplant co-ordinator, she was on the register, they will with a little luck be able to give sight to two people and use her heart valves to help two children or young people to live, or live a better life.
That did help, just a little. As bikers we often refer flippantly to organ donors but if ever you are in this position please choose life, even for someone you don't know. Life is a sweet thing.
I won't be around for a bit but I will be back.
Wow Cal i'm very sorry.
You were right about the litres. Someone in need will be grateful for what your wife was able to donate. You have my sympathies. Hang in there.
my deepest condolences and best wishes to you, Cal.
-will
I'm sorry. Such a terrible thing.
Hang in there, sir.
So Sorry. So Sad. Keep in touch.
Sorry to hear this Cal, ride safe.
God bless. She is on a great great journey no bike ride can match. Hang in there bud!
Really sorry to hear that. I'm sure she's in a much better place now.
Take care over there.
my condolences and best wishes to yourself and your family, Cal.
I wish you the best. It is tough to deal with but drink to remember not to forget.
That's horrible! Maybe a little shot or two will calm your nerves a little bit. Just don't do 10 or 12.
Right now I know you are in a funk and full of grief. Please hang in there.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Cal. It always seems unfair when something like this happens but hopefully knowing we all care deeply will in some small way comfort you.
My condolences. Hope you feel better. She is at rest now, and her body is going to a good cause.
Take some time to yourself,
Just remember she will be immortalized in the memories of others, so never forget her.
Celebrate Her life.
Cheers,
Alex
Sorry to hear this Cal, my best wishes to you.
I am grieved to hear of your loss Cal. Words seem petty and answers are elusive at these times. Remember the best. Your friends here in the States mourn with you.
Life's journey doesn't end with one's passing. It is merely beginning. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Cal,
sorry to hear for your loss
it's funny, that it takes someone else's loss to let another one really settle in: my grandma just passed away last thursday
and i just shed my first tear for her when I read your post
maybe your wife and my grandma will be riding on the same road to heaven (both on different gs')
drink to remember, not to forget (i like the way dgyver put it)
I'm so sorry - you have my deepest sympathies. Take care, and we hope to see you back soon.
I'm honoured and humbled that you chose to share with us, Cal. I hope there is more we can do for you to help you through this. Please don't hesitate to ask- anything at all. We'll all try.
On a more sensitive note, you mentioned a long illness. I know sometimes when the illness has gone on and on, particularly if there has been an inexorable decline, those remaining often feel a sense of relief mixed with their grieving, relief that the loved one is not suffering any more. Sometimes they feel a bit guilty about this, like it means they wanted the person gone. It's sometimes hard to remember that all you really wanted was the best for them, and for their suffering to be over.
words can't describe the feeling of losing a loved. just hang in there. you have plenty of people here on gstwin that care and will talk to you anytime. sorry about your loss. give it some time and just remeber all the moments you shared, good or bad.
Cal, I am very embarrassed if I don't recall you posting anything about your wife's illness before. Although I've never met you, you're still like a brother of the road and to hear of your loss made me go and hug Bebe and thank her for being there. My eyes are blurry as I type because I cannot imagine losing the one who is your life-long partner, and to have a brother who has lost and there is nothing I can do to comfort makes it even worse. Cal I love the little GS, I love Bebe, this forum and I love you too.
Cernunos
Deepest sympathies man. And noble in death too ... I congradulate you both.
Thanks on behalf of the whole world.
Cool.
Srinath.
My deepest sympathies Cal. Please take care. Find comfort in your friends and family. Just know that thoughts from around the world are with you. Thank-you for letting us into a very personal and private part of your life - it helps us all.
Dandy D
I'm never good with words in situations like these, but I would also like to express my sympathies. Our thoughts will be with you, even from this far away.
-Tim
my condolences my two wheeled brother, it is hard to lose a loved one, if it would ease the hurt, go pour yourself a glass of cognac, and drink a toast to her memory, my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours :(
Most here will never meet you in person, but many here appreciate the advice you offer. As one of your many friends on-line, I wish you strength in this time of sorrow.
Roy...
Sorry to here this, and condolances from the memebers of GS500E.CO.UK
so sorry to hear about your loss. Bottles never solve anything... only time, reflection and a few prayers can ease this kind of pain... I'll send one up for you.
cheers.
Cal, I'm so sorry to hear about your wife. My prayers go out to you and your family.
-Gavin
My prayers and sympathy go out to you and your family as well. May your wife rest in peace.
Sorry to hear about your loss.
Cal
I'm really sorry for your loss. Take comfort in the fact that those donations really do save lives. My nephew was born with a heart tumor which nearly killed him. he had 2 heart surgeries in his 1st week, and without someone making the difficult choice to donate, he would have died. Bless you and your wife, you'll both be in our thoughts and prayers.
Regards,
Riz
Cal, I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your grief with us. God bless you and your wife.
Sorry for your loss, it is so sad. Take care.
You're a great guy Cal, and she was fortunate to spend her time with you. If I could offer any valuable words, I'd say the end is really just a new beginning. Take care,
Ryan
Very sorry to hear of your loss Cal. Please take care of yourself.
Cal, you and your wife are in my prayers. Take care, we can't wait to see you back here. :kiss:
Cal, I'm deeply sorry for your loss. It's great, however, that her memory can last in the wonderful gift of life to someone else.
Best wishes for you, and I think I can speak for the whole GSTwin family in saying we're all here to support you.
My deepest condolences cal. I dont know what to say, i log on after a while only to catch this first.
It is a mighty honorable deed to donate your wife's organs.
Take care of yourself.. we are here if you need us.
I am so sorry man. Tears welled up in my eyes as I read your post. I started thinking of life without my better half and I just lose it. You are a strong and wise man and you have my deepest sympathies. It sounds like your head is still straight.
My condolences.
I don't have any word good enough to make any difference, so I'll leave it at that.
I sure hate to hear this after being out of town... You have my thoughts and prayers.
I haven't been checking the board much lately so I've just seen this now.
I am very sorry to hear of your loss...I had a friend who passed on last year from CF and without organ donation he would have left us 3 years earlier. Thing is, I didn't know him 3 years ago, so I was thankful to have had the chance to meet him and learn what a great person he was.
Thank you for giving others that same opportunity. RIP. :(