What do you do when your heart says yes but your head says no?
A few days ago I found myself in the back of a squad car. Why? In a nutshell, because my girlfriend was pissed at me. We were together for 2 years and fought with each other for 1 1/2 of them. We argued a lot. A LOT. Yet we still ended up back in each other's arms. We absolutely hated each other, but on the other end of the spectrum we really loved each other. One night we got into an argument and couldn't decide what to do with our evening. No big deal. I suggested getting a drink somewhere and then going home. Next thing I know, she's insulting my intelligence and masculinity. I feel the need for a walk now, and I take off walking. I'm gone for an hour, and a spot-light shines on me...then I have to explain to the officer that we had an argument and that I was offended and that I needed some air. This was the last straw for me.
I'm wondering...should I make amends with her and continue trying to work things out, or should I end the relentless bitterness now before I end up somewhere worse than the back of a squad car?
We both love each other madly. But the catch is, we both hate each other too.
The cold answer, break it off mutually, and remain friends.
If you guys get better while friends, give it another shot. But if you cant even be friends, then cut your losses.
But be careful with what you talk about with each other. If either of you finds another person, say your goodbyes.
I just had a breakup from a two year as well. I have 2years of memories, and a permanent reminder of her now;I got a fuckign aulser from beign so sad and gettign worked up. just got out of the hospital sunday.
So yeah. Fighting all the time is bad. Be friends, and if you guys get better during that time then great. If she goes off and gets another man, f%$k it. she wasnt thinking about you to begin with. But never burn that bridge, you never know when she may come back around. :cheers: Love is a very powerful thing. Itll make you feel great, it can hurt you, and it can heal you. Take it seriously, take it slow. Relax and try not to argue for all your worth. It may rub off.
Good luck.
The really cold answer break it off and having nothing to do with her ever again.
Misdemeanor domestic charge is right up there with a felony charge you don't want to go there.
I had to explain myself to a police officer once, and I never touched my ex, but her and her brother lied. Thought they would teach me a lesson.
I called the cops after being struck and wanted them presnt when I packed my bags. I actually had to walk away and keep walking as I was being pursued by her brother and did not want a physical confrontation.
Didn't take me long to pack my shaZam! in the presence of an officer and move on.
There are PLENTY of other women out there. When you find the right one, you won't have these issues. Do you seriously WANT this kind of crap for the foreseeable future?
LOSE this one quick. Get it over with! Move on. Shampoo, rinse, repeat.
why the f%$k would cop stop you? what did she tell them? and why were you in the back of a cop car? i had a gf like that. to make matters worse the Buddha Loves You is my daughter mother. she is f%$king psycho. we were at a bar and i was talking to a friend, female, from HS and she started screaming at me. i was walking away from the crazy Buddha Loves You and going down stairs at the pub. she chucked a glass at me which shattered on my shoulder and then went flying down the hall. luckily for me she did this right in front of a bouncer. while she was being taken out she was screaming and kicking and yelling that i hit her. luckily for me i had the bartender, my old friend, and the bouncer to back me up. the Buddha Loves You went to jail. but i stayed with her. on another occasion she comes home drunk at 2am. i am sleeping because i have to work early.(this is before i joined the military). she started yelling and chucking things around the house. i knew where this was going so i called the cops. by then they already knew about her and she was kicked or barred from many joints. off the Buddha Loves You went again. so i was just lucky. it easily could have been me in the can. but she was such a wild Buddha Loves You that she could not bs the cops. so i moved 3000 miles to get away from her and it was the best thing i did in my life. so my advise is to get and keep the f%$k away from her. she is one of those f%$king crazy bitches that go off with no notice. f%$king Buddha Loves You.
I'm no relationship guru, but I agree with the clean break idea. I think it'll save you trouble in the long run.
Quotewhy the f%$k would cop stop you? what did she tell them? and why were you in the back of a cop car?
First she threatened me that she would call the cops if I didn't get back into the car. I just took off into the woods at that point. She later claimed that her friend made the call because they were worried about my safety. But I think it was the same scenario as this one...
QuoteI had to explain myself to a police officer once, and I never touched my ex, but her and her brother lied. Thought they would teach me a lesson.
Well, thanks for the support fellas. Sounds like I'm not the only one who's had these problems. I think I'm going to go through with this and make it a clean break. I feel the aulser coming, but I also feel like I got myself out of a dangerous situation.
don't Buddha Loves You about it, do it. we will help as best we can...i say this often but i can't say it enough. gstwins are a family and we stick together through thick and thin
my advice.. 'if she hates you so much and dislikes you.. tell her she can walk out or you will.. and then walk out'. She will be back begging to reconcile. However I suggest its best you take a break.
I have a few friends in the same situation. No matter what I have told them they always go back the the Buddha Loves You :dunno_white: Soo... No matter what we tell you here, I know all too well that you in the end have to make the choice, and it seems that most guys in your situation make the wrong choice.
leave and dont ever look back, dont answer your phone even once if she calls. be done w/ it before you end up in jail for something you didnt even think of doing. Break it off 100% with no contact!
:cheers:
It will never get better- clearly you are both just being pussies about moving on. Any chick who would call the cops for something like that is nothing but trouble anyway. There are lots of great chicks out there that aren't head cases and don't live for day to day drama. Time to sack up and move on bro. Remember, as long as you depend on anyone but yourself for your happiness, you will never be happy. Other people will always let you down. I'm not saying you can't depend on people, but they should enhance your life, not be it.
Well said bikejunkie223 :thumb:
girlfriends suck. I need money to buy a new bike. :flipoff:
Quote from: bettingpython on September 09, 2008, 07:42:35 AM
The really cold answer break it off and having nothing to do with her ever again.
Misdemeanor domestic charge is right up there with a felony charge you don't want to go there.
I had to explain myself to a police officer once, and I never touched my ex, but her and her brother lied. Thought they would teach me a lesson.
I called the cops after being struck and wanted them presnt when I packed my bags. I actually had to walk away and keep walking as I was being pursued by her brother and did not want a physical confrontation.
Didn't take me long to pack my shaZam! in the presence of an officer and move on.
tbh agreed
I broke up with my girlfriend about 6 months ago - we'd been together for about 4 years, things were great i loved her to pieces, her problem was commitment, she commited to me but then didnt want to and cheated on me several times and i took her back each time, Eventaully it got to the point where she was so paranoid that i was going to cheat back on her that she stopped me talking to any of my friends who were girls by creating such a fuss when i did, in the end we split up and are still split up but remain friends altho she still gets jealous. She was heartbroken because shed got used to the face that no matter what she did i would take her back and this time i stuck to my word of not, so i kinda feel responsable for how she feels but have to try and tell myself she didnt care when she was treating me like crap.
Best to just get out of it mate. Theres nothing like being in love and being loved back, ANYTHING that makes a relationship shaZam! is not worth having, there are plenty of fish in the sea and one of them will be perfect and you won't have to put up with anything you dont like and nor will they.
Oh, one other thing....under NO circumstance should you be having sex with her EVER! She is only 1 "accident" away from getting her claws into your wallet for the next 18 years, plus if you want to have anything to do with the kid she will be a pain in your ass and any future girl you are with- basically forever. Move on bro, you deserve better. I don't even know you, and I know you deserve better. Everyone deserves better than what you have going on. Remember, as bad as you want to hit it one last time, or when the waterworks start and she goes to the emotional blackmail card DO NOT BONE HER!!!!
may I suggest a dating site.. www.plentyoffish.com
<--- a member and have met some interesting ladies there.
Quote from: TheGoodGuy on September 10, 2008, 11:43:13 AM
may I suggest a dating site.. www.plentyoffish.com
<--- a member and have met some interesting ladies there.
Plentyoffish rocks!!!!
That is where my wife and I met :thumb:
Tried e-harmony, yahoo, and one of those other big ass personals site they all sucked, met and dated more women from plentyoffish than the others combined.
glad to see i'm not the only who met their wife online. 8) :thumb:
Quote from: bikejunkie223 on September 10, 2008, 07:58:18 AM
Oh, one other thing....under NO circumstance should you be having sex with her EVER! She is only 1 "accident" away from getting her claws into your wallet for the next 18 years, plus if you want to have anything to do with the kid she will be a pain in your ass and any future girl you are with- basically forever. Move on bro, you deserve better. I don't even know you, and I know you deserve better. Everyone deserves better than what you have going on. Remember, as bad as you want to hit it one last time, or when the waterworks start and she goes to the emotional blackmail card DO NOT BONE HER!!!!
I believe that to be good advice.
Quote from: theUBS on September 10, 2008, 06:12:57 PM
Quote from: bikejunkie223 on September 10, 2008, 07:58:18 AM
Oh, one other thing....under NO circumstance should you be having sex with her EVER! She is only 1 "accident" away from getting her claws into your wallet for the next 18 years, plus if you want to have anything to do with the kid she will be a pain in your ass and any future girl you are with- basically forever. Move on bro, you deserve better. I don't even know you, and I know you deserve better. Everyone deserves better than what you have going on. Remember, as bad as you want to hit it one last time, or when the waterworks start and she goes to the emotional blackmail card DO NOT BONE HER!!!!
I believe that to be good advice.
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I DID IT! Haven't talked to her now for 4 days. She texted me, saying we can work things out (well, telling me mostly that
I can work things out with her).
QuoteOh, one other thing....under NO circumstance should you be having sex with her EVER!
We have had lots of make-up sex from previous fights. I just know this is what's going to happen if I respond to her. She even requested "angry" sex once upon a time. You guys are so right. I'm doing it! I'm getting out of this! Gahhh. <crying> <laughing> <crying>.
Again, thanks for the insight.
Quote from: TheGoodGuy on September 09, 2008, 05:48:39 PM
my advice.. 'if she hates you so much and dislikes you.. tell her she can walk out or you will.. and then walk out'. She will be back begging to reconcile. However I suggest its best you take a break.
oh i had teh cop issues, and the psycho GF, had a weapon in her hand, i was up against a couch, which was againsta wall, she was between a coffee table, and me, translation, after being repeatedly hit. ( i refuse to hita woman, unless in self defense)and weapon threatened i shoved her, backwards over the coffee table, she drops knife, i secured knife, placed it in my vehicle, picked up wiht a bag oer hand ( keeping my printas off it), knowing the twat would call teh cops. she had no bruses, i had many. she didnt mention i took her knife.. which im glad. cause i did not want her to see hard time. get help yes, but not hard time. the cops anyhow, wanted to haul her in, i refused to press charges, she needed psych help, so i told a lil white lie, saying she threatened to commit suicide. , shes still going off, so they take her in for an eval. shes since straightened out. and im friends with her. but wil NEVER date her again. cause i regretted striking her. even though it was in defense :icon_confused:
Been arguing for 1.5 years and you haven't walked away?
Lots of good advice above. I'll add this: I don't know what all the arguing/fighting was about, but I suspect you both share the blame. Use your time alone to do some honest soul-searching about the things that piss you off, and maybe think about the things that are most important to you in life. Clean out the crap in your life and make a fresh start.
And DO NOT bone her.
The best way to get over a woman is to get over another woman. Or something like that.
Lol i have to add, i thort this was just me but so many people must have gone through this too.
The whole make up through sex thing! I thought it was just me who saw how potentially fatal this could be. When i split up from my GF that went on for a little while but i certinally dont help and just makes things a whole helluva lot worse n i thort to myself wtf... this is crazy so quit that and cut all ties. turns out now shes chilled out we can be friends but were never getting together.
Glad im not the only one who saw the sex issue lol
The issue is that most men can have sex with a chick, and it doesn't have to mean anything, for women (most of them) it's always a major emotional thing, and that is always bad for a guy in your situation. Remember, you can seldom have sex with a chick without her getting emotionally attached (either initially or again) and women never have sex and keep their mouth shut about it. They always talk about it to somebody...but that's a totally different topic. Good job not getting back with her, I would stop taking her calls for a few weeks- it will be easier on you, your mind is already gonna keep churning up reminders of your relationship on it's own, you don't need direct reminders from her. After a month or so, you may start to think you have both cooled off and can try again- this is false. Clearly you two are no longer compatible and you just need to find someone else. Anyone else. There is no faster way to get over someone than to fill that void with the excitement of a new relationship. You don't need a girlfriend, just a chick (or chicks!) to hang with and get some once in awhile. One may turn out to be a long term proposition, most won't and that's cool- don't be in too much of a hurry to find a direct replacement for your last girlfriend- I would go with the shotgun approach. It's kinda like baseball- you ought to have several chicks in your bullpen so if one is a pain you just bench her for awhile. Few things will get a girl to treat you better than that girl being in direct competition with another/other girls for your time and attention. Hope that helps. AND NO ANGRY MAKEUP SEX!!!!!DO NOT BONE HER!!!
The doctor is out...
Lol, so true, but girlfriends like that are sneaky sons of a bitches too. They will claim they want meaningless sex and then coax you into it. Then hold it against you that your leading them on afterwards...
I agree, even if you don't get a new gf streight away, meeting some new girls and chasing a girl you like brings back the best bit of a relationship, the chase, the followed by the first month and half, after that... well its a slippery slope :laugh:
ugh i hate women exept pandy :kiss3:
Quote from: frankieG on September 11, 2008, 07:10:26 AM
ugh i hate women exept pandy :kiss3:
hmm....now we know the real reason frankie likes "group hugs" ;) :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
OK I go take a shower now.
Cool.
Buddha.
Quote from: bikejunkie223 on September 11, 2008, 06:57:04 AM
The issue is that most men can have sex with a chick, and it doesn't have to mean anything, for women (most of them) it's always a major emotional thing, and that is always bad for a guy in your situation. Remember, you can seldom have sex with a chick without her getting emotionally attached (either initially or again) and women never have sex and keep their mouth shut about it.
You don't need a girlfriend, just a chick (or chicks!) to hang with and get some once in awhile. The doctor is out...
That last part, I don't agree with. Much because of the first part. No need to toy with someone else just because you're recovering. BUT, that's just me.
Don't walk away from her mate. RUN!! Run away! No matter what you have in common (I guess it is in a nutshell physical attraction and sex). She is NOT a good human being. It would be beyond me if some years ago I learn some b$tch resorts to calling the police to make her point across. But I know it now (friend's experience). :mad: :2guns: :nono:
Further in life you will be regretting if you stay. You WILL get in trouble.
Don't talk to her, don't see her, avoid her, don't let her talk you into going back! She may be knocking on your door, sometimes at night. Just be polite but avoid her.
Get over her and move on.. Get yourself a new girl ASAP :flipoff:.
Quote from: theUBS on September 11, 2008, 03:13:22 PM
That last part, I don't agree with. Much because of the first part. No need to toy with someone else just because you're recovering. BUT, that's just me.
My point is not to toy with people, I was always honest with the women I dated that they weren't the only girl I was dating. And if they chose to date other guys than me, that was fine as well. My point was not to throw everything into the next girl he dates because at this point he really doesn't know what is right for him, and the only way to find out is to date lots of people, and eventually you will find a girl who you really dig and then you can drop off all the others. It's not a man-whore thing I am reccomending, though I guess the way I wrote it it sounds like it. I do firmly believe women are less inclined to jerk you around and play mind games with you if they know you will just break them off if they do. When you find the girl who naturally doesn't bring all the drama, games, and BS then you have one that is a foundation for a relationship- if you are into her too. I just don't think there is anything wrong with exploring every possible option when you are single, that's the best part of being single IMO.
That chick is bad news.
I wouldn't give her the time of day.
OK the way I see it you both are Friggin' selfish. It takes 2 to make a relationship work.Even though I have never been in a Serious relationship and I've been treated like shaZam! by Women for the past oh....... 30 Friggin years I've Had time to step back and look upon everyone elses relationships.I've learned my lessons from every ones mistakes.Right now I could have several damn nice Marriages with girls that thinks or thought Highly of me in the past few years.I've just been dumb enough not to get caught up in something I know I would Enjoy.Right now I am going thru Hell because I'm 30 years old and Have never told a Woman that I loved her until recently.The reason that I can't have Her is Because She loves Someone Else.I know She has Feelings for me because of what happened a Few Months Ago that I don't want to go Into details on.She is a Good Girl and a Hard Worker.Right now I would Give my life for Her as Long as she gives up the Piece of shaZam! she is with.He Just hasn't hurt her bad enough yet.It's an Every Day event that She Calls or Texts me that he has Hurt Her and it is Killing me that I can't do anything without making Her Look like a my mama or a Whore.I ask God Every f%$king Day why he won't give Her the Strength to get rid of him and Let me have Her.It's the only thing I've ever really wanted.Everything else in my Miserable f%$king life doesn't matter as long as I can make Her Happy,Keep Her Warm this Winter and Make sure she Has Enough to eat.
Then Again What the f%$k Does it matter.In the Long Run She is going to make me Miserable as Hell.Even More so than I am Now.
Back a few Months Ago we were by our Selves several times and Just about the time something was going to Happen we both would back off.I guess we both figured we would f%$k up a pretty good Friendship.I was Wishing something would Happen but it didn't because I have enough respect for Her to let her Make Her Own Decisions.What Happens....Happens.... if she wants to make Her own Hell so Be it.I'll go on living my Miserable life without Her making me Happy and Me making Her Happy.God Dammit why does Life Have to be so f%$king Complicated for me.Am I just too Complex?It dwelves Deaper and Deeper and I don't have time to write it all Here.Like I tell Everyone it's just a f%&ked up Situation. :dunno_white:
Quote from: bikejunkie223 on September 11, 2008, 04:13:14 PM
Quote from: theUBS on September 11, 2008, 03:13:22 PM
That last part, I don't agree with. Much because of the first part. No need to toy with someone else just because you're recovering. BUT, that's just me.
My point is not to toy with people, I was always honest with the women I dated that they weren't the only girl I was dating. And if they chose to date other guys than me, that was fine as well. My point was not to throw everything into the next girl he dates because at this point he really doesn't know what is right for him, and the only way to find out is to date lots of people, and eventually you will find a girl who you really dig and then you can drop off all the others. It's not a man-whore thing I am reccomending, though I guess the way I wrote it it sounds like it. I do firmly believe women are less inclined to jerk you around and play mind games with you if they know you will just break them off if they do. When you find the girl who naturally doesn't bring all the drama, games, and BS then you have one that is a foundation for a relationship- if you are into her too. I just don't think there is anything wrong with exploring every possible option when you are single, that's the best part of being single IMO.
As long as you are on the same page with those you are seeing, that seems fair enough.
Quote from: Jughead on September 11, 2008, 07:50:36 PM
OK the way I see it you both are Friggin' selfish. It takes 2 to make a relationship work.Even though I have never been in a Serious relationship and I've been treated like shaZam! by Women for the past oh....... 30 Friggin years I've Had time to step back and look upon everyone elses relationships.I've learned my lessons from every ones mistakes.Right now I could have several damn nice Marriages with girls that thinks or thought Highly of me in the past few years.I've just been dumb enough not to get caught up in something I know I would Enjoy.Right now I am going thru Hell because I'm 30 years old and Have never told a Woman that I loved her until recently.The reason that I can't have Her is Because She loves Someone Else.I know She has Feelings for me because of what happened a Few Months Ago that I don't want to go Into details on.She is a Good Girl and a Hard Worker.Right now I would Give my life for Her as Long as she gives up the Piece of shaZam! she is with.He Just hasn't hurt her bad enough yet.It's an Every Day event that She Calls or Texts me that he has Hurt Her and it is Killing me that I can't do anything without making Her Look like a my mama or a Whore.I ask God Every f%$king Day why he won't give Her the Strength to get rid of him and Let me have Her.It's the only thing I've ever really wanted.Everything else in my Miserable f%$king life doesn't matter as long as I can make Her Happy,Keep Her Warm this Winter and Make sure she Has Enough to eat.
Then Again What the f%$k Does it matter.In the Long Run She is going to make me Miserable as Hell.Even More so than I am Now.
Back a few Months Ago we were by our Selves several times and Just about the time something was going to Happen we both would back off.I guess we both figured we would f%$k up a pretty good Friendship.I was Wishing something would Happen but it didn't because I have enough respect for Her to let her Make Her Own Decisions.What Happens....Happens.... if she wants to make Her own Hell so Be it.I'll go on living my Miserable life without Her making me Happy and Me making Her Happy.God Dammit why does Life Have to be so f%$king Complicated for me.Am I just too Complex?It dwelves Deaper and Deeper and I don't have time to write it all Here.Like I tell Everyone it's just a f%$ked up Situation. :dunno_white:
Dude- That is an effed up story. I have not been in your situation but a girl I work with, and like very much in a friendship way (I'm married) is with a total douchbag that constantly treats her like garbage, and though he hasn't physically abused her (yet) all of us at work can't seem to convince her to shake this loser loose. I don't know why women do this so often, they get all hot for some @$$hole, and then continue to mistake being a duck for confidence, get attached, and then for some reason can't ever see the runaway train that's 5 feet away. I'm sorry to hear your situation- all you can do is be her friend, and hopefully one day she will wise up and leave the prick, unfortunately the closer you are with this girl the more miserable you will be, having to constantly hear every awful detail. That sucks.
Quote from: theUBS on September 11, 2008, 10:03:23 PM
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As long as you are on the same page with those you are seeing, that seems fair enough.
Cool, I didn't want you thinking some anonymous guy on the internets was a complete @$$hole...that would break my freeking heart! :cry:
Quote from: bikejunkie223 on September 11, 2008, 10:24:56 PM
Quote from: theUBS on September 11, 2008, 10:03:23 PM
As long as you are on the same page with those you are seeing, that seems fair enough.
Cool, I didn't want you thinking some anonymous guy on the internets was a complete @$$hole...that would break my freeking heart! :cry:
I figured it was weighing heavily on your mind... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
OK forget the selfish part.I was typing after a 6 pack and half a bottle of Jack Daniels. :icon_rolleyes:
Yeah I know.Back in the summer I was Dropping what I had to do at work just to be with Her.I was Actually Spending more time with Her than Her Boyfriend was.I bought Her things and Still do.I've Given Her money to Pay Her Bills because she wasn't getting to work much and she was getting ready to lose Her Vehicle.I even Fixed Her Cook Stove and mowed Her Yard Several times.I've Given more right now than He will ever give Her.Don't get me wrong She isn't using me or anything.I know that she really Appreciates it.Her Boyfriend on the other Hand is a total Dumbass thats 4 Years Younger than Her and would rather set in the woods or Hang out with his buddies than to be with her.Hell he won't take Her out to Eat or any place.She is wanting to go on a Vacation to get Away from things and He is planning on taking 2 Hunting Trips before long and He told her She wasn't welcome to go.Right now I would Drop everything and take Her to the Beach with me for 8 Days.I've told Her that I would.I offer to take Her out to Eat all of the time but she won't go.
Like I said She is a Hard worker and the line of Work She is in is Killing Her.I've told Her that on my Days off I could go Help Her out and She could Keep Her money and Any that I make.She said that She understood but it just wasn't possible because of Him. :dunno_white: I've often wanted to give up but I just Can't.Maybe I'm just :cookoo:
Quote from: Ry_Guy on September 09, 2008, 01:11:07 AM
What do you do when your heart says yes but your head says no?
A few days ago I found myself in the back of a squad car. Why? In a nutshell, because my girlfriend was pissed at me. We were together for 2 years and fought with each other for 1 1/2 of them. We argued a lot. A LOT. Yet we still ended up back in each other's arms. We absolutely hated each other, but on the other end of the spectrum we really loved each other. One night we got into an argument and couldn't decide what to do with our evening. No big deal. I suggested getting a drink somewhere and then going home. Next thing I know, she's insulting my intelligence and masculinity. I feel the need for a walk now, and I take off walking. I'm gone for an hour, and a spot-light shines on me...then I have to explain to the officer that we had an argument and that I was offended and that I needed some air. This was the last straw for me.
I'm wondering...should I make amends with her and continue trying to work things out, or should I end the relentless bitterness now before I end up somewhere worse than the back of a squad car?
We both love each other madly. But the catch is, we both hate each other too.
Not a healthy relationship. You posted @ 3am, police were involved, and she's not supportive of you. Time to crank up a new hobby or three while you get over her:
Skydiving ?
Track days every weekend ?
A boat (those things can kill ALL you money and time!) ?
Sorry you're moofed, it sucks.
:laugh:
QuoteA boat (those things can kill ALL you money and time!) ?
Funny that you suggested that. I've been sailing a Hobie 16 catamaran since the breakup. So far I've only tipped it over twice.
why do you need a new hobby just cuz you dumped one of the many crazy bitches that are out there? just go on with life as normal. i was thinking about my sort of gf last night. i was in bed and lying end to end from the corners taking up all of my queen size bed. in my mind i was thinking man am i glad i don't have to share this bed with a Buddha Loves You that would take up my room. tell me the tv is too loud or get bored and wants to go out. f%$k that i want to do what i want, when i want and how i want.
^^^
Its funny you should say that Frankie boy. As i was too laying in bed last night stretched across from corner to corner, thinking it was mighty cold and lonely and wishing i had a girl to share it with again lol.
not to me man...i love it. i was in the gf/wife trap from 17 years old to 42 with a gf or wife with maybe a week or two in between but other than that straight through. right now i am glad not to have the weight of the gf. technically i am still married but i only speak to tina when she e-mails and needs money. a couple of weeks ago it was 800 bucks for school, hockey, swimming and karate for AJ my son
Last night I was lying im my king size bed and had to roll over twice to snuggle up with my wife :thumb:
Miserable relationships are no fun. :mad:
Good ones get better with time :thumb:
QuoteGood ones get better with time
More power to ya man. I tried hard, but it was never enough. I just knew I'd end up somewhere in the same position as poor frankieG (my condolences btw). Ah well. Women...can't live with 'em and you can't live
with 'em
Quote from: Ry_Guy on September 13, 2008, 03:55:01 PM
QuoteGood ones get better with time
Ah well. Women...can't live with 'em and you can't live with 'em
This is funny to me, I just got back from a 10 day vacation, camping with my wife- after spending 240+ straight hours with her, with the only alone time being when I had to poo, I was anxious to get back to work to have a break from her. I love my wife, but damn!
Quote from: bikejunkie223 on September 13, 2008, 10:58:40 PMThis is funny to me, I just got back from a 10 day vacation, camping with my wife- after spending 240+ straight hours with her, with the only alone time being when I had to poo, I was anxious to get back to work to have a break from her. I love my wife, but damn!
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I'm told you learn to tune it out after a while. :kiss3:
We've been married 7 years, and started dating in high school, so that's 17 years together with a 4 year off and on area when I was in the Marines, and she in college and we dated other people as well...how goddamn long is it supposed to take?
Quote from: bikejunkie223 on September 13, 2008, 11:23:00 PM
We've been married 7 years, and started dating in high school, so that's 17 years together with a 4 year off and on area when I was in the Marines, and she in college and we dated other people as well...how goddamn long is it supposed to take?
It varies... I've heard between 35 and 50 years. However, a small percentage never do. :icon_mrgreen:
Quote from: Ry_Guy on September 13, 2008, 03:55:01 PM
QuoteGood ones get better with time
More power to ya man. I tried hard, but it was never enough. I just knew I'd end up somewhere in the same position as poor frankieG (my condolences btw). Ah well. Women...can't live with 'em and you can't live with 'em
You don't have to work at the good relationships, there's no conscious effort required, you just do nice things naturally.
Of course I tend to go overboard, happy birthday honey heres your new f4i, or happy anniversary hope you like your new mustang.... things like that. Guess I will have to buy her a private jet next year :laugh:
Quote from: bettingpython on September 15, 2008, 05:32:36 AM
Of course I tend to go overboard, happy birthday honey heres your new f4i, or happy anniversary hope you like your new mustang.... things like that. Guess I will have to buy her a private jet next year :laugh:
...well, you have set the bar pretty high... :laugh:
Ok...so...as a female.... Ry Guy.... RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seriously.... What you two share isn't love; it's co-dependence. It's not a healthy relationship! :cookoo: I agree with the advice not to bone her, too! :laugh: Ride (your motorcycle) more! Go out with friends more! Do whatever you need to do to get past the tough times! :thumb:
Oh, and love you, too, frankie! *group hug* :kiss3:
So give us an update, Ry!
Ahh, I was wondering where the dating advisor was...
Quote from: Ry_Guy on September 09, 2008, 01:11:07 AM
We both love each other madly. But the catch is, we both hate each other too.
thats called codependency. you dont love her, you need her. learn to live alone. only then will you find someone else worth living with.
if you can't stand alone, you can't very well stand with someone else. :icon_mrgreen:
Codependency...I don't know why I never considered that, but it totally was.
An update: We haven't said a word to each other for 9 days now (and consequently no boning :) ).
QuoteOk...so...as a female.... Ry Guy.... RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:laugh: Thanks for the tip. I've taken it quite literally...I'm moving to California!!
I followed my ex here to Milwaukee because she had a great grad school opportunity. But I have no friends or family here and I hate these long bitter winters. I've always wanted to live in a more 2-wheel friendly climate, like FL or NC. I just found a job in Corona, CA. So I'll be making the great migration there on Sep 26! I'm so excited I could poop my pants.
http://maps.google.com/maps?f=d&saddr=53172&daddr=92882&hl=en&geocode=&mra=ls&sll=46.137666,-52.245615&sspn=64.223636,157.5&ie=UTF8&z=5
You suck,
I love the weather, love the roads, but I hate the state.
Stay clean for the next 10 days too, then - no "before I leave town" foolishness. Just get out of town, get established and be happy with yourself in your new town, and then, and only then, go looking...for a girl on a GS500...?
Quote from: Ry_Guy on September 16, 2008, 05:33:35 AM
I'm moving to California!!
That is freaking outstanding. Don't talk to her at all, and I wouldn't even tell her you are moving, just disappear and let that jerk wonder wtf happened to you. Great move!
don't feel bad for me, diedra is 21 and all i have to do is give the word and she would move in. but i don't want a steady and i sure as hell don't want a live in.
Should be a fun trip, enjoy!
Definitely don't tell her. She'll figure it out soon enough. Change your cell number too. :)
I DID IT!!! I've been in CA for a week now. The trip went awesome! I almost decided to stay in Colorado while passing through. But I made it. Things are definately different here, but I like it. Thanks for the support, guys!
Here's Utah after I got my camera to work. Not the best pics, it's more amazing to see it with your own eyes!
(http://i194.photobucket.com/albums/z309/RK2000/RoadTrip002.jpg?t=1223255882)
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It was one of the most amazing trips I've ever made. I strongly recommend road trips west for anyone who's looking for an adventure.
Now that I'm here, and single....I've definately seen WAY more attractive latina gals than I ever did up north....
Way to go dude- live the dream baby! Still- for god's sake don't knock anyone up! Proud of you for hauling ass.
Well, hot damn! Welcome to California! :cheers:
Looking good! :cheers: :thumb:
Quote from: bettingpython on September 13, 2008, 11:00:53 AMGood ones get better with time :thumb:
Ja. Drama gets wearisome. A good relationship would make a dull daytime TV soap. :cheers:
Welcome to California. :)
Nooooo RGdrama is what makes gstwins.com us :oops: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Quote from: frankieG on September 09, 2008, 09:28:14 AM
don't Buddha Loves You about it, do it. we will help as best we can...i say this often but i can't say it enough. gstwins are a family and we stick together through thick and thin
lol @ pandy love the WF additions. and man welcome to cali i htink. im contemplating goin either there or to chicago before toolong
Quote from: yamahonkawazuki on October 14, 2008, 11:37:17 PM
im contemplating goin either there or to chicago before toolong
Didn't you live there before? You need a change of scenery. Come to Cali man, it's way better.
Quote from: Roadstergal on October 14, 2008, 10:59:39 PM
Ja. Drama gets wearisome. A good relationship would make a dull daytime TV soap. :cheers:
So true!
Quote from: Ry_Guy on October 15, 2008, 01:45:19 PM
Didn't you live there before? You need a change of scenery. Come to Cali man, it's way better.
What he said! ;) :cheers:
Quote from: pandy on October 16, 2008, 08:12:42 PM
Quote from: Ry_Guy on October 15, 2008, 01:45:19 PM
Didn't you live there before? You need a change of scenery. Come to Cali man, it's way better.
What he said! ;) :cheers:
i did, ive got family in or near santa barb. ( 2 CHIPS, and 2 pd ) and a few in gilroy, also near chi. where i originally came from., meh, TBH id rather go to ireland lol. have family there and also in douglass IoM, yeah i want a change of scenery :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: