http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AgRoM4kf8gI
ha ha ha..
my gosh can you get more _________
well you know :whisper:
Dude, easy fix. $10 at home depot gets you a hacksaw, just wait until night and hack that Buddha Loves You off.
HAHAHA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_UWFzIkeBE&NR=1
EDIT: That'd be HILARIOUS if that was him being chased after the interview. lol
Building on this,
Does anyone know of any actual defense against the "Angry Black Woman"? Seriously, it's killing me. You're a big guy, Spc, do they conflict with you? Has anyone noticed any trends for conflict management besides placation and walking away? I know an assault charge would work as soon as they puff their eyes out. But, I really don't want to stick around and be harassed waiting for the cops to show. No silly mentions about resorting to violence, either.
Obviously avoidance is impossible. And, when they're in positions of authority (no matter how small)...
You can argue if you want, if my opinion bothers someone. I'm not gonna listen to it, but you can say whatever you want.
I'm "speaking passionately". According (verbatim) to an angry black woman, that lets me say anything I want. And saying words like "racial diversity", "cultural dynamics" and "socioeconomic strife" in correct order.
The old "ignore, ignore, ignore" tactic just isn't working for me.
Just last week, one of them pushed the issue that I got a better test grade. I tried to ignore, and I actually was reprimanded for not doing my best to resolve the conflict. I didn't even know the chick's name. She sits above me and looked over my shoulder. Apparently trying to earn respect in her particular social circle, I guess.
For what it matters, this is pretty much the reason I'm such an @$$hole around here.
I get hit with this sh!t non-stop, at the drop of a hat. It has an effect on a person.
PM me if you don't want to say something in public. I'd appreciate a little help.
The only time I've ever had 'ABW' issues was in a Wal-Mart or WM parking lot. No shaZam!, best way to get em to leave you alone is to put your foot on the bottom bar of the cart, grip the top of the basket portion and literally rip it apart while maintaining perfect eye contact. It's kinda a primal display of dominance thing.
Lol Damn terry that i can imagine
There's got to be something else. There has to be.
Has to be.
Some sort of authority that I'm not seeing, and more professional than physicality.
Thanks for your experience, Terry. This sh!t has gotten out of control.
Quote from: wladziu on March 03, 2009, 02:09:52 AM
There's got to be something else. There has to be.
Has to be.
Some sort of authority that I'm not seeing, and more professional than physicality.
Thanks for your experience, Terry. This sh!t has gotten out of control.
you're trying to counter ignorance and me-ism with intelligence. won't work. get a bigger club. bigger clubs are universally understood.
Quote from: spc on March 02, 2009, 10:53:05 PM
best way to get em to leave you alone is to put your foot on the bottom bar of the cart, grip the top of the basket portion and literally rip it apart while maintaining perfect eye contact. It's kinda a primal display of dominance thing.
I would love to see that :bowdown:
The screw holding the plastic basket to the metal frame are pretty weak and after a few years of sitting around the parking lot and sunfading................. :dunno_white:
It's like I become an entirely different person at Wal-Mart. I hate that place so much. I had a guy run over my heels with a shopping cart............wait for it.........TWICE. I had a wee issue with that :icon_rolleyes:
Don't get me started on the little door-receipt-checker-assholes, they can eat shaZam! and die. Once my credit card clears or the money leaves my hand the merchandise is MINE and they have no f%$king right to dig through it.
I could go on for a long time about Wal-Mart, but I have shaZam! to do today (not going to WM, thank god).
Ok, My WM has steel carts :whisper:
but yep I hate going there too for alot of the same probs.
Metal carts complicate things, but I bet I could still f%$k one up pretty bad.
Wait, Wladziu, you were Army right? They didn't teach you the art of asserting dominance? A good stare down and a slow, deliberate turning of your back to the subject is a pretty powerful move psychologically. It basically shows that you have absolutely no respect for or fear of the person in question.
I know that. But the problem is that they feed off of it. That's what I'm trying to say.
I've tried it with them, but in their culture it's only a trigger to push harder. And then I end up in trouble with college authorities who have no qualms about slapping me with stricter disciplinary action because I'm older, smarter, and should "know better". These "other parties", shall we say, will be lucky to finish college, let alone enter medical school. So, the only club they're gonna pay attention to is the one that will actually hit them.
I would love to avoid the entire matter, but I'm too far along in my degree field to change schools.
We ARE smarter. I know it, I've seen it countless times. We need to find a solution other than brute force. As a combat vet tank gunner, I'm a little hampered by my urge to just chalk up another headshot. I'm trying to find a way around it, but the only thing I've found is to simply watch them chimp-out and feel sorry for them. It just takes them so long to stop.
And I know I'm not the only one. Why is everyone so afraid to say anything? Have a little d@mn pride in yourselves.
You think getting hit by a shopping cart is bad? How about getting pushed by a car? The campus police are all black, the disciplinary board consists of three black women who resemble giant walking tumors, and about 4500 thug-lifers waiting to deliver ghetto-justice. So, she jumps out and screamed at me for walking in her way.
Usually a smart comback works well for me. I remember once I had to show my ID to use the woman's dressing room at Wal-Mart! I'm like you're kidding me? She's like "nope youze aint no girl" I said " F- it I don't need your clothes that bad" and just up and walked away. She's like "ain't u gonna put that stuff back" I flipped her the bird and kept walking.
Working at Universal in Security can be a trying task esp to keep your temper. But, I've noticed that being kind in return to their rudness is a better comeback than anything bad you can say. I remember working in Disney once this black woman was just cussing me out and all I would say is "Have a magical day!" as I escorted her out. She insisted we stop at guest relations so I complied she started complaining to the Guest relations person and they were like "well what did she say" She just kept saying "have a magical day" and " I hope you have a great day" so what's wrong with that. She just got even more infuriated and finally walked out of the park. This way she was pissed and no way i could get in trouble!
I remember one day a guy cut me off in my convertible. I had honked the horn when he did it so at the red light he got out of the car. He started screaming at me and all I would say is have a blessed day. Finally, he got so pissed he said why don't you fight back. I said it's not what Jesus would do and he went off to his car. Deep down inside I just wanted to run him over but by being nice to him it just made him look like the A$$.
So, Use your intelligence and don't stoop to their level!
Mary
or you could just run them over. shaZam!, criminals in prison get more benefits and better f%$king treatment than i do sometimes......losing your job, "due to the economic crisis" f%$king sucks.......damn....thank God i've got my wife to go have hot sex with...speaiking of which...... :icon_twisted: :icon_twisted:
Quote from: spc on March 03, 2009, 07:45:37 AM
Metal carts complicate things, but I bet I could still f%$k one up pretty bad.
Wait, Wladziu, you were Army right? They didn't teach you the art of asserting dominance? A good stare down and a slow, deliberate turning of your back to the subject is a pretty powerful move psychologically. It basically shows that you have absolutely no respect for or fear of the person in question.
#1 MOTHER FUCKER!!!!! THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT!!!! HOOAH!!! Dominance can be displayed in subtle ways that get your point across with out the threat of violence. Thats my Favoite move. I have a mean stare that seems to get the message across. When You have one, and you feel it, they will too. Be sure that you mainttain eye contact for as long as you physically can during the turn until your head has to turn. Oh And be sure you drop your chin while keep your mouth closed. Its a instinctual sign of aggression. We drop our chins to protect our throats during combat. Kinda like looking out of the top of your sunglasses.
#2 And If your sitting down when she starts her shaZam!, You slowley and deliberatly stand up while shes talking, look over your shoulder as you turn towards her slowley, establish eye contact asap, cross your arms or place your hands on your hips as soon as you are facing her. keep your chin at normal level. Clinched your jaw muscles. Wait till she finishes with the bile she is spewing. Then Utter only one thing. "ARe you Done?" in as calm a voice as you can muster. Think Clint Eastwood. If She continues her vomitous rambling, remain silent, and then execute strategy #1
Like beating my head against a wall...
A subculture where over one in five have an IQ of less than 75 (from the Journal of Behavioral and Brain Sciences, Cambridge) asserting dominance across the country, and no one has a clue what to do except to give a cold stare.
That sort of thing does not work in the black culture. It encourages them. They pause very briefly when they think you might hit them, but quickly launch into louder screeching (or God knows what else) once they see you're only standing there.
Mary, your suggestion has merit. I'm trying to find a swifter measure. Some sort of cultural shock factor that can stop the god-awful screeching in it's tracks.
Unfortunately, I think the staredown will challenge them and force them into action because their friends around them won't let them live it down to be stared down like that. I really doubt there will be a clear cut, 100% effective answer to this. Each person is different. Maybe a swift comeback insulting their intelligence as to why you scored higher would work on some, or maybe apologizing and asking if they would need you to tutor them might embarass them enough to stop it.
Some you just have to leave it alone and realize there is no winning under that situation and its better to chalk it up as a no decision and walk away.
just my .02!
Nick
i had a boss once, thought since he was the boss and black, it entitled him to belittle everyone he came across. at the top of his lungs no less. whenever he would start one of his rants, i would put the stupidest grin i could muster on. and of course he would ask if i think this if funny. and i would simply reply, yes. seeing as he was an authority figure, i wasn't employeed there long. didn't bother me much, it was minimum wage. but i did leave an annoynmous message on the district managers phone....my former boss wasn't employeed there much longer either. :icon_mrgreen:
That is EXACTLY what concerns me, combined with this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dM4cWTED54k (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dM4cWTED54k)
(She doesn't start really getting into it until about 1:49, then REALLY lets loose at about 3:39. For those masochists out there...)
I've never heard anyone talk about it or offer any sort of understanding at all in the manner. But, if you lose your job or have something on your professional record for such an incident, YOU'RE the one that suffers. You can't simply explain that an angry black woman decided to chimp out on you.
Maybe I lived in Europe too long. Night and day difference over there. My poor Polish wife has been going batsh!t crazy since we moved here.
Gunslinger, your point of view is appreciated! I hate that I've been an @$$hole to you before, but maybe you see the source of my frustration. Indeed, an across-the-board solution isn't very likely. Can't blame me for really, really, REALLY hoping, though.
If I ever find myself apologizing to a borderline retarded bag of fat... somebody please euthanize me. I'll already be dead, anyway.
Trust me, in my line of work I have people lying to me all day long just to get what they feel entitled to with no regard for anyone else. I have blown up on the most innocent person (see mcdonalds drive through attendant) for the most stupid reasons (forgot to give me a straw) after even a "so-so" day.