My life has been turned upside down......

[lewismug]

I found out earlier this week that one of my older sisters was found in a river and died from a stab wound.  Her husband confessed to the murder yesterday.  They had two children, one 3 year old boy, and one 4 year old girl.  None of my other brothers or sisters are capable of caring for these two children, so my wife and I are basically the only ones on my side of the family that can care for them.  We already have a 3 year old girl, and a 9 year old boy.  A three bedroom home is going to be very cramped.  The children will have to share rooms for a while until we can add another two bedrooms.  We will need a larger vehicle.  More than likely, a van will be it.  We have to think about how to pay for their college, clothing, etc..  I am extremely worried that we wouldn't be able to handle two children being thrown into our lives.  But then again, I'm an adult.  I can cope better than a couple of toddlers who have just lost their mother and father.  Her husband told the investigators that the children were home when it happened, and that after he killed her, he put her body in the trunk of their car, loaded the children in the back seat, and then dumped her body in a river.  I have so many emotions running through my mind right now that I can hardly think.  A part of me wants to take the kids right away and love them until the end of time.  Keep them safe from any harm and raise them as my own.  The sensible part of me says that it would be extremely difficult to impossible for that to work.  One part of me wants to go to "visit" her husband in jail and blow his f%$king brains out, or catch him outside the courtroom and put a 30.06 round in his chest.  The other part wants to go and speak with him and get his side of the story.  find out if the kids saw anything, or if they were asleep.  I'm not saying we will definitely get the children, but there is a good chance.  I'm scared to death of what the future holds for me and my family.

[bettingpython]

Sorry about the loss of your sister Lewis.

Do not do anything rash, or your wife and children will have to visit you in jail, and we don't want to hear of that happening nothing you can do to him will bring her back and can only hurt you.

I congratulate you for stepping up being willing to take these children in. "No man stands taller than when he kneels to help a child."

Best wishes to you my friend.

[The Buddha]

Holee cow.
Wish you the best there man, scary.
Cool.
Buddha.

[beRto]

Dear Lewis,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister.

I know you are dealing with so many conflicting emtions right now. I think you are doing a very good job of keeping your head up and putting others first; this is so important when children are involved.

Stay strong and you will get through this.

Sincerely,
Roberto.

[Jay_wolf]

Thats proper harsh dude , Such a terrable thing to have to go through , Killing him wont help your family , even tho i would want to kill him for taking my sister away,
My heart and thoughts go out to you and your Whole Family.
Jay

[DoD#i]

That's a tough row to hoe.

All that taking direct action will do is screw up the life of your wife, your kids, and your sister's kids too, if you end up being where they go. Not to mention your own life. Given this post, you'd likely get nailed for premeditation - so put it aside, take a long series of deep breaths, and let the system grind along.

[scottpA_GS]

Wow... Not much I can say. Your sisters kids are luck to have an uncle like you 

[natedawg120]

Man, that's rough.  I don't know that I could see someone that did something like that to anyone and hold myself together, let alone my family.  I hope that everything works out for your and your extended family, they are sure lucky to have an uncle that cares as much as you do.

[frankieG]

jesus h f%$king christ...i don't know what to say.   my family is going throught the same type of thing.  my neice was murdered, at age 18, by her bf this week.  he beat the shaZam! out of her then injected her with an OD of oxcodone.   this crap is so unblievable when it happens you just have to say "why my family"  "why him/her"  god only knows.  i am not much of a religious person but i did pray for her last night.

[pronator]

You guys are in my thoughts, Lewis and Frankie.

[mach1]

I would say do the last emotion firts then the second while doing the firts asap. but maybe use your hands and not a gun

[GI_JO_NATHAN]

Wow...
Sorry for your loss.
Good luck.

[Revere2]

Lewis......I am deeply sorrowful for your loss. I can't even imagine your pain and confusion. You and your family will be in my prayers.
I hope that you find answers and somehow.....closure....in the future.   Sincerely.

[yamahonkawazuki]

prayers sent, lewis, and frankie 

[bombadillo]

Wow, man, I'm really really sorry and I mean that in as real a way I can over the internet.  You'll be on my church and morning prayer groups prayer list as of the end of this post.  Please don't go and do anything stupid like shoot him.  I don't know your faith, but man you've gotta put aside what has happened as best you can and love him even through the grief.  I can't imagine losing somebody like that and especially a family member.  I worked in a mortuary for years and have seen the best and worst, and for the sake of you, your loved ones, and family, please don't shoot him or anything like that.  Do your best as an adult to take charge of the kids and listen to those around you with wise counsel and figure out what will truly be the best for the kids, not just what you think you SHOULD do.  Again I am truly sorry and if you need anything at all for advice, or counsel, feel free to email at www.centerpointeonline.com which is my church.  My wife will get the email and I can respond if you address it to casey or to chuck who is the pastor.  Let him know you know me through here and again sorry and god bless.

[b_long_1]

Sorry about your loss.  I will be praying for your family tonight. 

[Revere2]

Frank, in the long and short of it all, I didn't see your post. Forgive me. I pray that you and your family find answers and peace as well.

[Cal Price]

That is a terrible loss, I can only say how sorry I am. Don't do anything rash - now matter how short term satisfying it might seem. Your first duty is to your family and now your extended family. If you must seek revenge let it wait for twenty years and then see how you feel about it.
In the last few years I have lost two close relatives, natural causes, and a freind was stabbed to death. I cannot begin to compare this to the loss of a sibling but it has taught me that human endeavor can overcoming the seemingly impossible. I have also learned that you don't "get over" these things but you do get used to it, with acceptance comes a lessening of the pain.

[Fry]

It's incidents like these that makes me loose faith in humanity...

It's people like you and your actions that restore that faith...

Good luck with what lies ahead...

I'm in the Psych. field and have done some grief counseling in the past if you need anything give me a email.

[frankieG]

this is lewis' thread, i just thought i would mention what happened in my family so that he knows someone understands.   i am wracking my brain trying to figure out how we can help him.