:(

[Streebek]

 
Few things are worse than those self-torturing "What-ifs"

Honestly...there is SOOOOOO much more to gain out of asking her than there is to lose.   This is one of those situations that define a man. 

Let's pretend you don't ask her...and you two remain friends and go out occassionally or always talk online.  There will come a day when some guy does ask her.   And then you will be kicking yourself in the ass...and you will always have some sort of resentment.

She sounds like a great catch.  Don't let her get away!

[Porkchop]

Ann,

What's the deal?  Are you going to tell her or not?  The choices are simple.  You've already laid out the options.  Just choose one.

If you are asking for advise, I vote you just tell her how you feel.  If you're looking for help, give me her number and I'll tell her how you feel.  Life is too short, just go for it!

-Porkchop

[joshr08]

and with a name like ^^^ life is real short cuz who dont like chops

[annguyen1981]

Few things are worse than those self-torturing "What-ifs"

Honestly...there is SOOOOOO much more to gain out of asking her than there is to lose.   This is one of those situations that define a man. 

Let's pretend you don't ask her...and you two remain friends and go out occassionally or always talk online.  There will come a day when some guy does ask her.   And then you will be kicking yourself in the ass...and you will always have some sort of resentment.

She sounds like a great catch.  Don't let her get away!

I always think of when I'd ask 'what if' and know that I'd beat myself up for it...  I never even thought about that senario.


She IS a great catch.  Smart. Funny. Generous. But more importantly I like what I feel like when I'm around her and she makes me want to be a better person.  That sounds selfish, but that's the truth.

[lawman]

I just realized... Am I giving a woman named Ann advice about women...? 

[annguyen1981]

No. I'm a guy. She's a GREAT girl.  My name is An.  Stop thinking about that. It'll NEVER happen.  heh

[cafeboy]

I just realized... Am I giving a woman named Ann advice about women...? 

Well if you don't tell her then you should be Ann. 

[annguyen1981]

FUQ.  I'm torturing myself too much over this.  One minute I tell myself that I'll say something, the next minute I have doubts.  FUQ FUQ FUQ.



(PS.   I've been swearing LESS because she's in my life.  She always knows how to make me smile...  I'm scared that if she's gone out of my life, I'll just snap on day.)

[jetboy287]

dude just tell her the worst thing that could happen is she wont feel the same way, i mean come on bud you can do it

[cafeboy]

or she could kick your a$$ 

[Toogoofy317]

Damn if you don't do I'll kick your A$$! It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all!

Mary

[annguyen1981]

Damn if you don't do I'll kick your A$$! It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all!

Mary

Right now my response to that is "blah blah blah".  No offense to you.  Maybe it's better to just try and move on without telling her a single thing.

[scottpA_GS]

I say do it! The dinner idea is good... Offer to take her out to celebrate the new job and see where it goes. Holding it in isnt going to get you anywhere... You will feel soooo much better if you just get it off your chest 

Worst case she says no deal... You  shouldnt feel any worse about it then you do now 

[Toogoofy317]

No I did and let him go and think about him alot. It sucks because we have been best friends for seven years but it will never be. When you can finish each other's thoughts. Know them better than anybody else. He was the only person that came to the hospital when I was evaluated for heart transplant. but, neither had the courageto change to realationship because of the friendship. Driving me three hours to a doctor's appointment and holding my hand while ralphing in a tin can all the way up.. Now that is a friend. I just feel complete with him but from day one we knew it couldn't happen but that doesn't make it hurt anyless

A long painful story that will not end. Only thing in my life I've regretted is not getting up the guts to fight for him!
I guess this sums it up
                                                                  The Time to Love

A day, a month, a year.
What is the difference with love?
Nothing to most, but everything you fear.
You feel years are needed to show true love.

But just a day or even a minute with you,
Would be cherished more than the years,
Where friends and family were too few.
Because in the past day by day was in fear.

My love will be that of forever,
Whether it is a day or a year.
The seconds we share can never,
Be forgotten but in parting I will shed tears.

For life without you is not to bear.
If I must walk away from our love,
Without ever knowing what we are,
Or what may become of our love.



Mary

[Streebek]

Ok.  Well...if you're not going to do anything...She's fair game right?   

[annguyen1981]

No I did and let him go and think about him alot. It sucks because we have been best friends for seven years but it will never be. When you can finish each other's thoughts. Know them better than anybody else. He was the only person that came to the hospital when I was evaluated for heart transplant. but, neither had the courageto change to realationship because of the friendship. Driving me three hours to a doctor's appointment and holding my hand while ralphing in a tin can all the way up.. Now that is a friend. I just feel complete with him but from day one we knew it couldn't happen but that doesn't make it hurt anyless

A long painful story that will not end. Only thing in my life I've regretted is not getting up the guts to fight for him!
I guess this sums it up
                                                                  The Time to Love

A day, a month, a year.
What is the difference with love?
Nothing to most, but everything you fear.
You feel years are needed to show true love.

But just a day or even a minute with you,
Would be cherished more than the years,
Where friends and family were too few.
Because in the past day by day was in fear.

My love will be that of forever,
Whether it is a day or a year.
The seconds we share can never,
Be forgotten but in parting I will shed tears.

For life without you is not to bear.
If I must walk away from our love,
Without ever knowing what we are,
Or what may become of our love.



Mary

Wow.  That really hit the spot.  I never realized it, but most of the time, we know what the other is thinking when it comes to sentences.  When ever I'm looking for something(I'm very absent minded), it seems like she know exactly what I'm looking for and either holds it up and tells me where something is.

[Porkchop]

Wow.  That really hit the spot.  I never realized it, but most of the time, we know what the other is thinking when it comes to sentences.  When ever I'm looking for something(I'm very absent minded), it seems like she know exactly what I'm looking for and either holds it up and tells me where something is.

Then the answer is smacking you in the face...tell her.  Tell her now!

[lawman]

  BLEEEEEECCHHHHH!!!!

YOU PEOPLE ARE CLEANING THAT UP!!!

[ohgood]

No I did and let him go and think about him alot. It sucks because we have been best friends for seven years but it will never be. When you can finish each other's thoughts. Know them better than anybody else. He was the only person that came to the hospital when I was evaluated for heart transplant. but, neither had the courageto change to realationship because of the friendship. Driving me three hours to a doctor's appointment and holding my hand while ralphing in a tin can all the way up.. Now that is a friend. I just feel complete with him but from day one we knew it couldn't happen but that doesn't make it hurt anyless

A long painful story that will not end. Only thing in my life I've regretted is not getting up the guts to fight for him!
I guess this sums it up
                                                                  The Time to Love

A day, a month, a year.
What is the difference with love?
Nothing to most, but everything you fear.
You feel years are needed to show true love.

But just a day or even a minute with you,
Would be cherished more than the years,
Where friends and family were too few.
Because in the past day by day was in fear.

My love will be that of forever,
Whether it is a day or a year.
The seconds we share can never,
Be forgotten but in parting I will shed tears.

For life without you is not to bear.
If I must walk away from our love,
Without ever knowing what we are,
Or what may become of our love.



Mary

Wow.  That really hit the spot.  I never realized it, but most of the time, we know what the other is thinking when it comes to sentences.  When ever I'm looking for something(I'm very absent minded), it seems like she know exactly what I'm looking for and either holds it up and tells me where something is.

pinky finger to mouth...

Joooo comweeeeete me




i loose stuff all the time. the wife, maw-in-law, co-workers, and kids all find stuff for me. i lost a 12" rule for three days. the old geezer i'm replacing pointed to it, tucked behind an I-beam, behind a 14 foot boring mill, about 3 inches from a crack in the steel that drops 20' or so down below, forever darkness.

if you find someone that knows where your keys are, marry them. period.

[annguyen1981]

Today was the first day working with her since she told me of her two-week notice.  It was a LOT easier on me.  Everything went like it always does...  I do something stupid, she makes fun of me for it...  I lose something, she points to it and laughs...  etc.

But somehow I couldn't say anything still.  Like I said before, I need to grow a set.