What do you do when your heart says yes but your head says no?

A few days ago I found myself in the back of a squad car. Why? In a nutshell, because my girlfriend was pissed at me. We were together for 2 years and fought with each other for 1 1/2 of them. We argued a lot. A LOT. Yet we still ended up back in each other's arms. We absolutely hated each other, but on the other end of the spectrum we really loved each other. One night we got into an argument and couldn't decide what to do with our evening. No big deal. I suggested getting a drink somewhere and then going home. Next thing I know, she's insulting my intelligence and masculinity. I feel the need for a walk now, and I take off walking. I'm gone for an hour, and a spot-light shines on me...then I have to explain to the officer that we had an argument and that I was offended and that I needed some air. This was the last straw for me.
I'm wondering...should I make amends with her and continue trying to work things out, or should I end the relentless bitterness now before I end up somewhere worse than the back of a squad car?
We both love each other madly. But the catch is, we both hate each other too.

The cold answer, break it off mutually, and remain friends. 

If you guys get better while friends, give it another shot.  But if you cant even be friends, then cut your losses. 
But be careful with what you talk about with each other.  If either of you finds another person, say your goodbyes.
I just had a breakup from a two year as well. I have 2years of memories, and a permanent reminder of her now;I got a fuckign aulser from beign so sad and gettign worked up.  just got out of the hospital sunday.
So yeah.  Fighting  all the time is bad.  Be friends, and if you guys get better during that time then great.  If she goes off and gets another man, f%$k it.  she wasnt thinking about you to begin with.  But never burn that bridge, you never know when she may come back around.     Love is a very powerful thing.  Itll make you feel great, it can hurt you, and it can heal you. Take it seriously, take it slow.  Relax and try not to argue for all your worth.  It may rub off. 
Good luck.

The really cold answer break it off and having nothing to do with her ever again.

Misdemeanor domestic charge is right up there with a felony charge you don't want to go there.

I had to explain myself to a police officer once, and I never touched my ex, but her and her brother lied. Thought they would teach me a lesson.

I called the cops after being struck and wanted them presnt when I packed my bags. I actually had to walk away and keep walking as I was being pursued by her brother and did not want a physical confrontation.

Didn't take me long to pack my shaZam! in the presence of an officer and move on. 

There are PLENTY of other women out there.  When you find the right one, you won't have these issues.  Do you seriously WANT this kind of crap for the foreseeable future? 

LOSE this one quick.  Get it over with!  Move on.  Shampoo, rinse, repeat.

why the f%$k would cop stop you?  what did she tell them?  and why were you in the back of a cop car?  i had a gf like that.  to make matters worse the Buddha Loves You is my daughter mother.  she is f%$king psycho.  we were at a bar and i was talking to a friend, female, from HS and she started screaming at me.  i was walking away from the crazy Buddha Loves You and going down stairs at the pub.  she chucked a glass at me which shattered on my shoulder and then went flying down the hall.  luckily for me she did this right in front of a bouncer.  while she was being taken out she was screaming and kicking and yelling that i hit her.  luckily for me i had the bartender, my old friend, and the bouncer to back me up.  the Buddha Loves You went to jail.  but i stayed with her.  on another occasion she comes home drunk at 2am. i am sleeping because i have to work early.(this is before i joined the military).  she started yelling and chucking things around the house.  i knew where this was going so i called the cops.  by then they already knew about her and she was kicked or barred from many joints.  off the Buddha Loves You went again.  so i was just lucky.  it easily could have been me in the can. but she was such a wild Buddha Loves You that she could not bs the cops.  so i moved 3000 miles to get away from her and it was the best thing i  did in my life.  so my advise is to get and keep the f%$k away from her.  she is one of those f%$king crazy bitches that go off with no notice.  f%$king Buddha Loves You.

I'm no relationship guru, but I agree with the clean break idea.  I think it'll save you trouble in the long run.

Quotewhy the f%$k would cop stop you?  what did she tell them?  and why were you in the back of a cop car?

First she threatened me that she would call the cops if I didn't get back into the car. I just took off into the woods at that point. She later claimed that her friend made the call because they were worried about my safety. But I think it was the same scenario as this one...

QuoteI had to explain myself to a police officer once, and I never touched my ex, but her and her brother lied. Thought they would teach me a lesson.

Well, thanks for the support fellas. Sounds like I'm not the only one who's had these problems. I think I'm going to go through with this and make it a clean break. I feel the aulser coming, but I also feel like I got myself out of a dangerous situation.

don't Buddha Loves You about it, do it.  we will help as best we can...i say this often but i can't say it enough.  gstwins are a family and we stick together through thick and thin

my advice.. 'if she hates you so much and dislikes you.. tell her she can walk out or you will.. and then walk out'. She will be back begging to reconcile. However I suggest its best you take a break.

I have a few friends in the same situation. No matter what I have told them they always go back the the Buddha Loves You  Soo... No matter what we tell you here, I know all too well that you in the end have to make the choice, and it seems that most guys in your situation make the wrong choice.

leave and dont ever look back, dont answer your phone even once if she calls. be done w/ it before you end up in jail for something you didnt even think of doing. Break it off 100% with no contact!

It will never get better- clearly you are both just being pussies about moving on. Any chick who would call the cops for something like that is nothing but trouble anyway. There are lots of great chicks out there that aren't head cases and don't live for day to day drama. Time to sack up and move on bro. Remember, as long as you depend on anyone but yourself for your happiness, you will never be happy. Other people will always let you down. I'm not saying you can't depend on people, but they should enhance your life, not be it.

Well said bikejunkie223

girlfriends suck.  I need money to buy a new bike. 

Quote from: bettingpython on September 09, 2008, 07:42:35 AM
The really cold answer break it off and having nothing to do with her ever again.

Misdemeanor domestic charge is right up there with a felony charge you don't want to go there.

I had to explain myself to a police officer once, and I never touched my ex, but her and her brother lied. Thought they would teach me a lesson.

I called the cops after being struck and wanted them presnt when I packed my bags. I actually had to walk away and keep walking as I was being pursued by her brother and did not want a physical confrontation.

Didn't take me long to pack my shaZam! in the presence of an officer and move on. 

tbh agreed

I broke up with my girlfriend about 6 months ago - we'd been together for about 4 years, things were great i loved  her to pieces, her problem was commitment, she commited to me but then didnt want to and cheated on me several times and i took her back each time, Eventaully it got to the point where she was so paranoid that i was going to cheat back on her that she stopped me talking to any of my friends who were girls by creating such a fuss when i did, in the end we split up and are still split up but remain friends altho she still gets jealous. She was heartbroken because shed got used to the face that no matter what she did i would take her back and this time i stuck to my word of not, so i kinda feel responsable for how she feels but have to try and tell myself she didnt care when she was treating me like crap.

Best to just get out of it mate. Theres nothing like being in love and being loved back, ANYTHING that makes a relationship shaZam! is not worth having, there are plenty of fish in the sea and one of them will be perfect and you won't have to put up with anything you dont like and nor will they.

Oh, one other thing....under NO circumstance should you be having sex with her EVER! She is only 1 "accident" away from getting her claws into your wallet for the next 18 years, plus if you want to have anything to do with the kid she will be a pain in your ass and any future girl you are with- basically forever. Move on bro, you deserve better. I don't even know you, and I know you deserve better. Everyone deserves better than what you have going on. Remember, as bad as you want to hit it one last time, or when the waterworks start and she goes to the emotional blackmail card DO NOT BONE HER!!!!

may I suggest a dating site.. www.plentyoffish.com

<--- a member and have met some interesting ladies there.

Quote from: TheGoodGuy on September 10, 2008, 11:43:13 AM
may I suggest a dating site.. www.plentyoffish.com

<--- a member and have met some interesting ladies there.

Plentyoffish rocks!!!!

That is where my wife and I met

Tried e-harmony, yahoo, and one of those other big ass personals site they all sucked, met and dated more women from plentyoffish than the others combined.

glad to see i'm not the only who met their wife online.   

Quote from: bikejunkie223 on September 10, 2008, 07:58:18 AM
Oh, one other thing....under NO circumstance should you be having sex with her EVER! She is only 1 "accident" away from getting her claws into your wallet for the next 18 years, plus if you want to have anything to do with the kid she will be a pain in your ass and any future girl you are with- basically forever. Move on bro, you deserve better. I don't even know you, and I know you deserve better. Everyone deserves better than what you have going on. Remember, as bad as you want to hit it one last time, or when the waterworks start and she goes to the emotional blackmail card DO NOT BONE HER!!!!

I believe that to be good advice.