so, the question is, how often does that "d" word come up? it's been mentioned a few times in fights both by me and by her.(which i think is normal "fight talk") but this last time, i'm thinking she may be serious. i'm not gonna go into details or air dirty laundry really. just curious as to how my other gs-twinners fair in this respect.

Never, I'm a widower.

In my lifetime, both times a woman has said that word to me it came to pass within six months.  Most people don't kid around about that stuff.  In the heat of a fight, maybe that is one thing.  During (relatively) calm, rational conversation; I don't like those odds.

What's the d word? Seriously in the past 4 years never had even a heated disagreement much less a "fight". Never came up with my first wife either I just decided to leave. The second wife it was horrible though fought all the time and It came up lots. After 5 years of listening to it I told her was tired of hearing it and would make it happen.

with my first it came up from her a lot and it happened after 3 months.  With my current never, been together 6 yrs and married 2+.  Oh and i never say that word, cause marriage is a for better or worse thing and it can't always be better.

we've been together close to 5yrs....married close to 3..... it's not all roses and sunshine but you know, what is really?  One day at a time I guess.

Never ever ever 10 years this sept. but we have been to gether for 16 years. Yes thats right I was 16 when we met. 

fights ? hopefully you're calling disagreements 'fights'.

if you're yelling / throwing things, it's time for some serious counseling.

marriages aren't a bed of rose petals (all the time) but they sure shouldn't be that much arguing.

3 years married, 9 total together so far. she's the light and i'm the evil.

an occassional voice raise but not throwing things. not in dissagreements anyhow. i've thrown a wrench when the mower wouldn't work right. 

Marriage is like a bridge between when times are great and when times are tough.

Divorce should never, never , never come up in a healthy marriage, even when times are tough. If you really want to keep her and believe the feeling is mutual then counseling may be in order.

My wife and I would fight like cats and dogs when we first started out but all is good now. I think it was just part of growing together.

somedays i hate being an adult. 

My wife & I both came out of a divorce about the same time.  We've been together 8 years.  To me, that is not something you talk lightly about.  Last time It came up, I did it.  You want one?  Thank you!  Had my first wife 7 years, 2 or 3 were OK, the rest sucked.  I was so lucky to get out...  If it sucks & you want out, do it before you fall into the area where you owe her more money for longer.  In CA, up to 10 years, you pay for half the time you were married, 10-20, for the number of years, over 20, you own her for life...  Unless you find some sap to marry her...