Apprehension, how do yall deal with it?, ( forthcoming doc visit. if i can scrape up the fundage, somethings up, i know. but have no idea what.) Sooooooooooo this apprehension is drivign me Gnutz or even  , how do yall deal with it. alcohol helps lol, BUT cannot do that at work lol. so any advice? would be most appreciative

sex....       (by yourself counts...    )   

Ehhhh, naah. i suffer from lackanookie  lol , so that is out for the time being 

Quote from: yamahonkawazuki on August 17, 2009, 09:05:17 PM
somethings up, i know. but have no idea what.

Dude!  that's more like paranoia.  

Think back to the hardest or scariest thing you've ever done.   You made it thru that, didn't you?   Hell, you've made it thru every day of your life for the past 30 something years.  Why would this day be any different?  (answer...say it with me...it won't)    

If that doesn't work, try vodka and breath mints.  

it's about perspective i think. changing how you look at something. finding a positive way to view a potentially negative event. it's hard i know, but YES YOU CAN! I BELIEVE IN CHANGE! I.......(have no clue what the hell i'm trying to say... it's the thought that counts right? ) 

Breathing exercises, meditation, concentrating the mind on something else, cleaning, organizing, trying to do a mindless activity that basically diverts the mind's attention to something else. Distract yourself until you realize you're doing all that you can do at the moment, and there is no sense worrying over it. If you're not doing all you can do, focus on doing it.

Quote from: ineedanap on August 17, 2009, 09:30:14 PM

Quote from: yamahonkawazuki on August 17, 2009, 09:05:17 PM
somethings up, i know. but have no idea what.

Dude!  that's more like paranoia.  

Think back to the hardest or scariest thing you've ever done.   You made it thru that, didn't you?   Hell, you've made it thru every day of your life for the past 30 something years.  Why would this day be any different?  (answer...say it with me...it won't)    

If that doesn't work, try vodka and breath mints.  

a year ago my kidneys shut down for 24 hours. , been dealin wiht pain for 6 mos. minor pains until recently in kidney areas, ( both sides) , once i raise the fdunds needed ill know for sure whats up  on the 25th. of this month ( its the being lax on my diabetes for 20 years that is catching up to me ( leg wound wont heal etc lol .) , so like i siad. i know somehitngs up, its not knowing EXACTLY what is up is what is makin me a tad apprehensive

Quote from: Alphamazing on August 17, 2009, 09:34:48 PM
Breathing exercises, meditation, concentrating the mind on something else, cleaning, organizing, trying to do a mindless activity that basically diverts the mind's attention to something else. Distract yourself until you realize you're doing all that you can do at the moment, and there is no sense worrying over it. If you're not doing all you can do, focus on doing it.

Hmmmm, will have to try this 

If I have something I am stressing about I like to break it up into manageable pieces and focus on doing them one at a time.

I'm not a multitasker so thinking about everything all at once can be overwhelming.

It helps me to work on an issue one day at a time or even hour by hour until before I know it I reach my goal.

Quote from: jserio on August 17, 2009, 09:34:03 PM
it's about perspective i think. changing how you look at something. finding a positive way to view a potentially negative event. it's hard i know, but YES YOU CAN! I BELIEVE IN CHANGE! I.......(have no clue what the hell i'm trying to say... it's the thought that counts right? ) 

Good god that sounds like Obamas slogan. see where htat got us?  lol, id break this up into manageable pieces. BUT it will have to be dealt wiht at once time.

Quote from: dohabee on August 17, 2009, 11:31:34 PM
If I have something I am stressing about I like to break it up into manageable pieces and focus on doing them one at a time.

This is an excellent one. This is a strategy one of my anxiety-prone friends uses. It can make things easier. I think the way she goes about it is to sit down and analyze what needs to be done, then figuring out each step to get to that point, then writing down those steps, then going down the list and checking them off. Checklists help her.

However, I don't think that process would help in Aaron's situation, but it's definitely something to remember for future use if need be.

visit a children's ward at a local hospital. i went to visit a friend's kiddo, and i just THOUGHT i had it rough. by the time i left my perspectives on a whole lot of things were changed to say the least.

indeed

Well, I was confirmed with cancer today in my thyroid. Am I worried nah not really. I do my research find out the appropriate path and go from there. These past four days since I found out the information of the possibility of this cancer really didn't stress me at all. Sure, right after wards I had to take a step back and digest the information. I cried for about ten minutes because it didn't really seem fair that not only do I have a heart problem, chron's disease, and a vast myriad of other things wrong but that this too had to happen! Then I stopped because the anxiety doesn't help me solve the problem. Information and knowledge is what helps me solve the problem. When I walked in today I had already gotten myself a copy of the biopsy and knew what was fact and what to expect. So, there really was no extra suprises. Doc was kinda stunned that I did that but I do it with all of my illnesses. Why? Because, I don't have no one else to do it for me!

So, do your homework find out as much as you can and be prepared. Then relax what is absolutely the worst that could happen? Even if it is your kidneys with proper treatment you will be back as good as new.

Mary

Going along with Alpha's suggestion of breathing exercises:  In the Army we have 'Combat Breathing'  4 counts on the inhale, hold 4 counts, 4 counts on the exhale, hold 4 counts, repeat.  It may sounds stupid, but it is 100% effective at calming you down.  It almost becomes second nature.  I woke up to a loud clanging on my back porch the other night, grabbed my gun and headed out.  I realized later that I was doing it the whole time.  (BTW, it was a friggin possum and I hit him with enough bear mace to take down a bull elephant.  It looked kinda like he was having a seizure, but he was gone in the AM)

Tai Chi is also really good for helping you keep a level head through out the day.

for 6 mos pain on ten scale was 5 of en. last week or so, has been around 8. today was a solid 9. right leg, (one i had the NSFW pic) is not healing, kidneys are working, cause im peeing CLEAR and oddorless, hell somehting is up, and ive got a week to kill before i know whats going on ( next tuesday), so my plumbing is working, was contemplating goint ot ED. BUT since its working. going to try and tough it out until tuesday. sellign off everything i own to get doc paid, ( my pc is next), damn mary idk HOW you do it     thats why im apprehensive.

Sounds like you're not so much worried about the outcome, but how you will financially take care of everything.  THAT can be more overwhelming because you know it's something you need.  I don't konw where you live, but most hospitals have a "charitible cause" unit that if you fall within the "right" financial criteria and you have a large bill, they will cover it one time, no matter how large it is.  Call your hospital and check into it.  Other than that, take a deep breath and relax because as of know, there's nothing you can do if you dont' know what's ailing you.  Not to mention getting worked upa nd stressed out isn't too good for your diabetes either.  Stress will make your sugar skyrocket like a you-know-what

yeah i know .

Well tomorrow am i go to doc, and find out whassup. ( 0930 ) then at 1600 go to work. so at least tomorrow ill know what im dealing wiht 

Well i went today. xray machine was broken. BUT doc is convinced im more than likely dealing wiht ESRD. all but one symptom of stage 2, and some of stage 3. ( out of four stages)i ran out of cash. so ill go in sept 29th. to finish tests and such. my bp was 115/52, but he put me on BP meds . ( to help kidneys.) so ill raise up 150 to do that visit/tests. will go next week to get xray done. to check things out visually. gave me an injection of antibiotics. as well as a steroid shot. in me bum. good god. i was wired since. lol well for 4 hours. intill pain floored me again lol. i was like on steroids ( pun intended lol ) that BP was AFTEr i had a cigarette. which normally will spike my BP alot. heh thislow BP stuff is a weird feelign. im quartering pills on docs orders. hell i left knoxville TN with enough meds to make a street dealer jealous ( this is what i get for mishandling my diabetes for 20 years.    ) ive changed my habits a lil while back. BUT ive no one to blame but myself my back muscles are tight as can be . everythign i try. wont make em release. on a semi related not. i almost got arrested 4 days ago. ( obtaining. items for muscle/pain relief. ) cops let me go, no citations at all. BUT one of those " if we see you around here again.  typer BS things. i went back today to get rest of prescriptions filled, got stopped by same damned cop. fucker wanted to confiscate my meds i had. ( LEGAL oNES this time),my name was on labels. he was saying. well we need to verify it. i said you arent taking them wiht you. he said oh yea, watch me. i said okay do what you have to do. BUT i need your precint address. he said why. i said. to send the lawsuit paerwork in. he coped an attitude. i said i aint f%$king kidding. i said get your supervisor down here, sir and well discuss this further. he did, his super came. funny thing is hetried to deny it. BUT i had both my phones voice recorder running. , as well as a call in progress to a friend of mine.  ( who was taping it as well). we both calmed dow. went over to a fuel station and talked. i said. look, you were MORE than gracious hte other day. , i got out of that oen CLEAN. and ive learned. that IS NOT happening again. we were cool, after that. so all worked out . i was prolly partially at fault ( my emotios were not. ( and still arent lol) in check at that point. ) ( f%&ked up day lol ) , but anyways guys hte , but ill close this long ass winded post by saying the advice yall gave me , on how to deal wiht the stress. helped out IMMENSELY. many thanks