He wants me to wait until I save up a little more money.  I know its because he is afraid for me.  I wish i could make him feel more at ease with my decision.   Althought he did say if I wait a few months he would help me with the cost of the bike.  I see so many good deals its driving me crazy   He also wants me to get life insurance ---that freaks me out a bit---but i'll do that for him. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster.

hmmm, one idea to get him comfortable is maybe have him do the MSF himself. Or tell him to grow some LOL. Insurance policy albeit a good idea to have it anyhow I think is a little uncalled for solely for this situation. I think he is trying to use scare tactics to get you not to ride. I mean you've done the MSF you have a good amount of gear. As long as you are a safe competent rider you most likely will be okay. But, remember you do have a bit of a higher risk when out on the bike but I don't let it stop me. I mean I have a heart problem with a defibrillator and still ride! When it is your time to go it doesn't matter what you are doing it's your time!

GET THE BIKE!

Mary

Reserving this place for later.  I have something to say but just no time right now.  Back in a few 


The Bob!

I think Mary has a good idea with having him take the MSF course too.  I don't see the point in life insurance just because of the motorcycle but is is a good idea in general if you have kids or large outstanding debt.  You never know what can happen.

I don't want to psycho analyze your marriage but I'd hope he'd support you.  You need to have a certain amount of confidence and the right mind frame to get out there on a motorcycle, it won't help if someone is putting negative ideas in your head.  My girlfriend got her learner's last year and her license this spring.  She lacked some confidence at first but she is now fine riding solo.  She also rock climbs and sky dives so motorcycles are just one of many "dangerous" activities I could worry about.  I just have to trust she will make good decisions and ride defensively.  Good luck to you!

-Jessie

"You don't get to ride, until I get a ride." 

Victoria

Do you drive a car every day?  How many auto accidents have you had in the last year?  Even little fender benders that were not at all your fault?

BeerGarage

Quote from: PachmanP on October 15, 2009, 07:19:38 PM
"You don't get to ride, until I get a ride." 

No no no. Coercion is NOT the answer. The answer starts with NOT trying to control each other. To Let the other person do/be what they want to do/be. Anything else creates resentment at some point down the track.

Michael

Quote from: Victoria on October 13, 2009, 06:49:08 PMI know its because he is afraid for me.

Why is he afraid for you?  Is it reasonable, or unreasonable?  Hash this out.

Consider dirt before street.  It's a lot less risky, it builds skills, it's something you can do together.

He's afraid of what crappy ass 1982 mutt you're gonna drag home, I'm sure. 

And man if it ever needs anything ... I mean anythign at all, including gasoline, You'd never hear the end of the I told you so's.
Cool.
Buddha.

Any new updates on this issue?. It can be difficult to change the mind of your other half, but keeping you or keeping your other half from something they would like to do, is not the answer either. If he wanted to bungee jump, would you let him? I too would express my concern, but encourage them to follow through with the challenge and enjoy life...

I think there are 2 kinds of people.

The enablers and the interveners.

I am an enabler. If my wife ever acquired a bad habit, I'd seriously drive her off the deep end. I know of people who would have an intervention, literally even well before it becomes a problem.
Say you have a cigar one time cos your neighbor had a baby, its the end of the world and your spouse will work on you like she has to drag you back from the grave. me, I'd buy her a box of cohiba's and say, there's more where that came from ...

Cool.
Buddha.

+1 on taking the MSF also

If your ok waiting then do so. trust me they are still selling gs500 and always a good deal to be had as it is considered a begginer motorcycle.  Life insurance is good doesnt hurt. So is normal insurance. not a good idea to finance this bike anyway if you are buying new..the value drops quickly

Quote from: Victoria on October 13, 2009, 06:49:08 PM
He wants me to wait until I save up a little more money.  I know its because he is afraid for me.  I wish i could make him feel more at ease with my decision.   Althought he did say if I wait a few months he would help me with the cost of the bike.  I see so many good deals its driving me crazy   He also wants me to get life insurance ---that freaks me out a bit---but i'll do that for him. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster.

+1 for saving the entire cost of the bike. it helps if a purchase 'stings' a little. there is no bite to a credit card, only a payment and regrets.

life insurance ? well, i don't know your husband, or your relationship, but i'd say it's a fair thing to ask for. if the wife said i needed more before i road - i'd use my veto power of being head of household. then i would agree, and do what's best for our kids, and buy more.

what's the hurry on buying a bike ? there are boatloads of gs's and ninja 500/250's out there. they won't disappear overnight. find the RIGHT deal, when you have the cash.


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and a BIG +1 for both the MSF and DIRTY RIDING suggestions. life, love, and marraige is about experiencing new things together, learning, and loving while doing so. learn his interests, embrace his hobbies (however lame they are), and enjoy the positives all you can. life  is  short.

Take him for a ride, he might find it weird riding behind a girl, but he will love it once he feels the open road and freedom of bike.  Its irrational to be afraid of motorcycles, respect them, and be safe, don't be a statistic, perfectly safe.

MSF sounds like a great idea, people are often afraid of what they don't understand. The GS is a very solid, stable, consistent ride and a good choice. Small enough to handle, fast enough to scoot out of trouble. The most important thing is wearing good gear all the time, and staying very aware and alert to potential hazards to stay as safe as possible. The only thing you can do about unsafe people on the road is to anticipate potential danger zones, be alert, stay visible as possible in traffic, and be aware of road surfaces and conditions (wet, sandy, etc.).

I got back on a motorcycle about 6 years ago. I think I've logged about 3K miles over the last 6 years, not much but it is all canyon riding, with some short miles on surface streets to get there (PCH mostly). My husband rides, and my 1st husband rode for years. I ride with my hubby for recreation now. Life insurance is a good idea, I have that and also good health coverage. You can slip in your bathtub and break something, so yes, bikes are potentially dangerous but life is to be lived with verve and joy, not in fear and regret.

I have another lady riding buddy and she started on a Rebel then moved up to a Honda 599. She rides now with guys on Harleys and big Gold Wings, and has done poker runs and looong day trips! Her husband doesn't understand it and has no interest.  Now she's thinking about a liter bike. We went out today and it was just delicious: a perfect day, my bike was running smooth as snot and I felt like it was on rails through the corners. I haven't been out for awhile but I rode her today like we were one. I luuurve that bike! It's not something you can explain to someone with no interest, but you have a right to do some things for yourself. Maybe find a newbie type club or a ladies club to ride with. Following experienced riders helps you learn finesse faster. Starting in dirt is good too, I did as a kid, it teaches balance real fast!

If you want something lighter maybe try the baby Ninja, but the GS has the advantage of the bigger engine. Just slow down and breathe, things will sort out.
When the time is right the right bike will be there.