11Jan2011
Title: Tears on the Floor

Tears of my sorrow they do not wait
Tears on the floor, patterns they do make
As they darken the floor
Some complete
Some caught
Some fade
Some do not

Some take memories as they fade
Some leave memories where they stain

My tears are a transport of my sorrow
Of a loved one lost discovered on the morrow

My love was lost and a freedom found
To love again where happiness doth abound

Linda, my wife, 28Aug2010
Inspired by new love

Haikus are easy
But sometimes they don't make sense
Refrigerator

Scratch - we are here for you. The Poem - well its good, but more than that, its a way for you to express your feelings. My prayers/best wishes with you always.
Cool.
Buddha.

Scratch there are not enough words to even come close to comforting you in this time. Keep writing it helps. I do it myself. If you need anything please feel free to get ahold of me.

Mary

I missed the memo, didn't realize there was something really serious going on here. Excuse me for bringing my nonsense in with me.

I know this will sound weird but it was in the Le sbian thread at one point. Other than that it is Scratch's dicision on what he wants to share.

Mary

I'm sorry for your loss. I wish you all the best.

Indeed scrath all of us are here. you made the poem, Very nice btw, i made teh YT video, we each deal with it in our own way. although still kickin me. and teh haiku i LOL'ed at

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4M4S_bEteEo

Yes indeed, these things take us all in a different way and we respond in a different way. There is no right or wrong response, just different ones.
A lot of emotions get mixed up, I know, I've been there. People will quite understandably try to offer comfort and say things like "You'l get over it" but my experience is that you don't get over such things but the pain does ease as you get used to it.
When I lost my wife in 2005 (not long after loosing my mother) quite a few members of this board wrote to me one way or another offering prayer and comfort, the most eloquent came from Kerry and OMW who was not exactly the darling of the board. It's strange how comfort and what has turned into lasting friendships can come from places you don't always expect.
I am deeply sorry for our loss scratch.

Quote from: Cal Price on January 14, 2011, 05:34:18 AM
Yes indeed, these things take us all in a different way and we respond in a different way. There is no right or wrong response, just different ones.
A lot of emotions get mixed up, I know, I've been there. People will quite understandably try to offer comfort and say things like "You'l get over it" but my experience is that you don't get over such things but the pain does ease as you get used to it.
When I lost my wife in 2005 (not long after loosing my mother) quite a few members of this board wrote to me one way or another offering prayer and comfort, the most eloquent came from Kerry and OMW who was not exactly the darling of the board. It's strange how comfort and what has turned into lasting friendships can come from places you don't always expect.
I am deeply sorry for our loss scratch.

Well said cal. well said

Thank you very much!!!!!!!

Scratch, I'm very sorry for your loss.  My condolences to you and others who's lives were touched by your late wife. 

It is one thing to realize love in death
But to be loved and feel loved
And to share that love
That is what makes us whole

I've met someone, had her over last night to watch "Return To Me", thinking it would be a nice romantic movie to watch with her, and I start having feelings of loss and she notices my breathing has changed.  We're on the couch, and she rolls over to me and just says, "I love you", and smooths my hair out with her hand, and gives me a kiss.

And, this morning she goes to make coffee, and I start crying in the shower.

Quote from: scratch on February 15, 2011, 09:51:09 AM
It is one thing to realize love in death
But to be loved and feel loved
And to share that love
That is what makes us whole

I've met someone, had her over last night to watch "Return To Me", thinking it would be a nice romantic movie to watch with her, and I start having feelings of loss and she notices my breathing has changed.  We're on the couch, and she rolls over to me and just says, "I love you", and smooths my hair out with her hand, and gives me a kiss.

And, this morning she goes to make coffee, and I start crying in the shower.

aye. ive caught myself doing that as well. been bad enough to the point where i was almsot tempted to do somethign drastic.  however, i guess this is somethign between you and the man upstairs. only you two know when you are ready to move forwards.

I'm still greiving her.  I know all these things about greiving and knowing just doesn't make it any better.  It still hurts.  But, talking about it, that does help.  Having a girlfreind, who's great at being patient and supportive of me, is a great comfort.  She's out of town for the week, and it made me realize that I am still greiving.  I got some good crying in, and feel better.

I seem to have a lot of subconscious triggers that make me cry.  Just driving to work makes me cry.  I'm going to work, not coming home.  Now I dislike coming home, but it doesn't make me cry until I'm actually in the house.  Sometimes I cry in the car in the carport, but it's usually because of a song on the radio.  But, if I'm walking around the house after I get home, I'm allright.  It's just when I go inside.  It's empty.  Hollow. Void.  I'm just going through the motions of eating dinner and getting ready for bed.  I'll put music on the sterio, and that sometimes helps; high-energy music gets me doing things around the house, but if it's anything else...it's stale, staid.

Thank you all for listening.  And, your support.  I'm doing allright.  It's just going to take a while, and I need to be patient with myself.

Sorry for your loss.