dating and ex girlfriends

[ashman]

One things I've always heard is you can pick your friends, you can pick your nose and you can pick your friends nose but you can not pick your family. Also tru is that fact that you cant pick your ex girlfriends, once you've dated them there is no turning that back. They seem to have a way of worming themselves back into yur life. To bad Ortho or Raid doesnt make a ex g/f repellent. I'd pay decent money for never having to deal with one of them ever again. Ofcouse the good ones you never hear from again, the rest seem to like to chime in once in a while to throw a wrench in the gears. You woman r crazy! :guns:

-ash

[pantablo]

I'd pay decent money for never having to deal with one of them ever again.

some people call that alimony.

[Roadstergal]

I'm on good terms with most of my exes.   :dunno:   We have coffee or watch movies sometimes, and otherwise live our own lives.  No biggie.

Also tru is that fact that you cant pick your ex girlfriends

That's one of the few things in life you have total control over.   :lol:  If you never date someone, she can never be an ex!

To quote Mitch Hedberg - "I don't have a girlfriend... but I do know a girl who would be really mad if she heard me say that."

[TheGoodGuy]

i hear you brother...

my ex vanessa is trying to creep her way back into  my heart after cracking it, breaking it, liquifiying it..

now she wants back. I really dont feel like giving in. My heart is not ready for all teh BS I went thru in the end.

Funny she goes "i always loved you, and i still do", yeah like i believe that, cause if that wsa teh case she should have been willing to work on teh relationship. She didnt work on our relationship, it was long distance, i did 99% of the work. It ended because of her selfish needs.

she claims she is no longer what she used to be and is willing to work on things, well i dont see anyting. Infact i saw things at the loser guys she was dating. Its funny how she tried to justify how great those guys were, and yet she got bugged with them... and now she is back knocking on my door.

Frankly I am not willing to go back.. but then i havent been dating myself.. i need to date so i dont have a possiblity of going back to her.

Problem: I havnt been getting the response from women that i want. A part of me wants to give up and go back and another part says no more and wants to go find the next rejection. I dont understand why some women who it would work with, somehow dont want to it to the next level with me but are willing to with losers. On the other hand i get statements like "your an awesome guy, you should be taken" and yet im to be taken.

oh well enoguh of me ranting.. im feeling HOT>. time to turn down the AC to 74.

[Roadstergal]

All's fair in love and war.  In my experience, most folk leave a relationship feeling that they put more into it than they got out.  But one thing I've learned - you never get back what you put in to a relantionship.  So be careful with what you put in.
-Don't put more in if you're not getting out what you need, with the thought that putting in more will make the other appreciate and reciprocate.  Talk honestly, but don't put in more than you're prepared to lose.
-Along those lines - sacrifice is meaningless if the other person doesn't want or understand what you're sacrificing.  So don't bother to sacrifice what isn't appreciated.

[Blueknyt]

The pain of loss is great in deed, but the loss of pain,and all that mirrors it is greater by far.

Truely blessed are those whom love and are loved.

Love is like a red red Rose, And im feeling alittel Thorny!

the 3 rings,  always remember the rings my son.


ok, im out, anyone else?

[Roadstergal]

And im feeling alittel Thorny!

Do you mean you're feeling a little...?

[Blueknyt]

RRRaarrrrr    :kiss:

[ashman]

i'm feeling a bit more sober now then when i wrote that. i base it upon my ex g/f who was 18 when we started dating myself 21 @ the time. Numerically not a big age diff but maturity, leaps and bounds! She would always run cold then hot and play lil games and treat me like crap.

We've been broken up over a year and every couple months she calls up and says whatsup, we should hang out ect ect. I make the attempts but shes always busy we hang out 1 or 2X and then just kinda drift appart. Last month she called me and I was like, ya i broke my wrist in a bike accident A MONTH AGO!, she was shocked, like ya we never talk so dont act surprised. So 2 nite again she I.M.'s me sayin shes been having "innappropriate dreams" about me and part of her must still want me, I go oh u broke up w/ the MARRIED GUY yur dating (i kid not) she goes, no we r togther. Stupidly I call her 2 nite and she blows me off cuz her roommates b/f just got an X box and tells me she'll call me back in 5 min in the middle of a game. 2 hr later I get a call after i send a text message sayin, she never was there when it counted and our "relationship" was a sham. she left a message sayin i'm crazy like i always was....

you woman r the crzy ones here, once a relationships over. its over, let it die!!! she knows i'm very happily involved in a relationship right now and still calls me and says she is "having inappropriate dreams" i'm sure if we hung out and I made a move she would let it go somewhere. she only called cuz she wants booty. Is it just me or am I right?!?!

-ash :x

[ktrim]

I have noticed that most people enter a relationship with the hopes of being together forever, then get upset when it doesnt work.  If you have some one you enjoy being with-- enjoy it!!  dont worry about tomorrow, next week or next year.  Enjoy today.  if you are ment to be together then next week will happen.  treat each day like its your first and last together.  if and when it does end dont dwell on the bad feelings and heartache -  think about the fun you had and the time spent together then move on!!  if it didn't work the first time it wont work the second!!

[raylarrabee]

To quote Mitch Hedberg - "I don't have a girlfriend... but I do know a girl who would be really mad if she heard me say that."

R.I.P. Mitch.  That is my favorite Mitch Hedberg line.

"My buddy asked me if I wanted to see a picture of him when he was younger.  All pictures are pictures of you when you were younger.  Show me a picture of you when you're older, then I'll be impressed."

[Roadstergal]

you woman r the crzy ones here, once a relationships over. its over, let it die!!!

Well...  for starters, as should be obvious, you can't judge all XXs by one experience in one relationship.  Also - 18 is a time of crazy hormones and crazy attachments that are very strong one moment and disappear the next (lather, rinse, repeat).  And, quite frankly, that can last through 21.  I didn't date when I was 18; that's just a crazy time.

If you have some one you enjoy being with-- enjoy it!!  dont worry about tomorrow, next week or next year.  Enjoy today.  if you are ment to be together then next week will happen.  treat each day like its your first and last together.  if and when it does end dont dwell on the bad feelings and heartache -  think about the fun you had and the time spent together then move on!

  Breakup is just a recognition that it was not meant to be; it doesn't need to be a hateful or hurtful time.  Most of the relationships I see that end badly end so because one or both parties were Trying To Make It Work - and although compromise and consideration are key in a good relantionship, when Trying To Make It Work becomes pain, it's time to let it go.

[chbix]

ok to go off on the ex GF thing.  I dated a chick all through high school, I was 16 and a soph, she was 15 and a fresh, we were eachothers first and all that mumbo.  Figured I would marry her.  well I went away to college and things got rough, we decided to call it off for the time being and she slept with one of my good friends to get back at me, so it was over I was done with her, she dated some guy for about a year, i had dated a few girls over the course of the year and then her BF who was sooo much better than I was cheated on her with her best friend, at karma great.  Well anyway I was pretty much over her and hadnt talked to her in about a year, then she decided she wanted to give US a try again.

To make a long story short we have been married for 2 years and have 2 kids.  

So dont knock the ex GF thing in every case.  Admitted there are pshyco ladies that want nothing more than to hurt you cause thats all they know how.  

But man if your single or semi single and this chick wants a booty call, why not give it up?  just go into it knowing its a booty call.  basically if you have the mind set that its just booty, keep her at arms length.

Anyway The point is just cause they are an ex, you dont have to write them off completely, but for physco ladies, one thing comes to mind, restraining order.

[indestructibleman]

i had an ex who i hadn't spoken to in a year (nasty breakup, serious mind games, etc . . .).  when we started speaking again she was dating a friend of mine.  that didn't last long and soon i was having five hour phone calls in the wee hours during which we both said we still loved each other.

we got back together, eventually moved in and got married.

to make a long story short, we have been divorced for 2 years and i haven't spoken to or seen her since.    


cheers,
will

[Roadstergal]

Anyway The point is just cause they are an ex, you dont have to write them off completely, but for physco ladies, one thing comes to mind, restraining order.

And don't forget that from their side, you might be the psycho one.  It's very hard to judge things when there is a lot of emotion involved, and your signals might be as mixed as the ones you're getting.  Booty call being one of those; I would strongly disagree that's a good idea.  It's a mixed message.  If you're in the post-relationship need-cooling-off time, cool off and do it completely.  No calls, no emails, nothing.  It can take a year or more, but you can be friends afterwards if you've both stuck to your guns on your intents; you can't if you've waffled back and forth.

[Jake D]

I am recently single (time to get back in shape, already dropped ten pounds).  I have an interesting story, but. . .

I can't tell it because I am afraid my ex-girlfriend might be monitoring this board. . .

Float this out there, see if I get angry any calls.  If the coast seems clear, I'll tell you guys what is up.

[CasiUSA]

Word of advice: if she comes by at midnight to drop all of your stuff off that you left at her apartment, just kick her out, don't let her stay till 5am chewing your ear off about bull$hit.
2 weeks ago, hence the selling of her bike on the For Sale/Trade/Hot Deals board. (Shameless plug)

[juno]

There is nothing like a Grudge f%$k!

[Anonymous]

Everyone enters a relationship to get something they NEED.  

The weaker personality ALWAYS loses.

You're much better off in a relationship where THEY chased YOU.

If YOU fall head over heals YOU'RE going to take another big fall down the road.

A few "truisms" from your pal joe.

[Cal Price]

I am sure, if you asked, someone on this forum could explain Einstein's theory of relativity or the law of converging velocities, someone might even be prepart to start building a ten lane highway bridge from L.A. to China, Kerry would chip in a helpfull picture or two. Joe and Cas would argue, John Bates would explain the electrics involved, these truths are self evident.

Trying to get an explanation of how the opposite sex thinks, why they do what they do......Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar forget it.