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Title: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: annguyen1981 on August 18, 2006, 09:47:02 PM
Would you ever ask a co-worker out?

or

Have you ever asked a co-worker out?
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: TragicImage on August 18, 2006, 09:55:26 PM
yes, I have.



yes, I have.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: pantablo on August 18, 2006, 10:15:46 PM
yes I have... slept with her too. wouldnt do either of those again.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: sharkfin25 on August 18, 2006, 10:18:28 PM
Quote from: annguyen1981 on August 18, 2006, 09:47:02 PM
Would you ever ask a co-worker out?

or

Have you ever asked a co-worker out?

Yes, I have. I married her 6 years ago. Best thing I ever did!  :thumb: :icon_mrgreen:
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: yamahonkawazuki on August 18, 2006, 10:18:56 PM
Quote from: pantablo on August 18, 2006, 10:15:46 PM
yes I have... slept with her too. wouldnt do either of those again.
aye been there twice with the same girl. will NEVER happen again. it can lead to much trouble man. an think Carefully b4 you proceed
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: yamahonkawazuki on August 18, 2006, 10:20:02 PM
well for you shark it worked. gratz man, but for myself it turned into a clusterf#$k  :mad: :laugh:
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: Alphamazing on August 19, 2006, 12:23:15 AM
I have you all beat in the stupidity crowd on this one.

I asked out a co-worker. We dated (not exclusively, mind you). While she and I were dating and whatnot I asked out another co-worker. She and I dated (not exclisively, mind you).

Dating two co-workers at the same time is stupid.

Turns out, these two girls ended up having a lot in common and became best friends.

Dating two girls who are best friends is really stupid.

Dating two co-workers who are also best friends is pretty f%$king stupid.

Damn I'm stupid.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: blue05twin on August 19, 2006, 01:30:12 AM
Unless the two co-workers really liked each other and both wanted to be with you at the same time  :thumb:
( dumb response but it's 4:30 am and I'm really tired )

Wait till she either gets fired or quits then ask her out.  Dateing co workers is bad. . . can get very bad.
I thought you worked for your family's buisness renting room's?.  .. and if co-worker is also a family member thats really bad  :laugh:
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: CirclesCenter on August 19, 2006, 01:32:40 AM
Depends on if you're ok with losing your job.

Me: Hell yes.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: Caffeine on August 19, 2006, 06:33:22 AM
I dated a girl at work 20 years ago.   I made it clear from the start that it was not a long-term relationship, and went out of my way to make sure she knew that I had NO intentions regarding marriage, etc.

Well, the whole time we were going out, SHE was telling everyone at work and all of her friends that we were IN LOVE and that I was telling her that I wanted to get married, blah blah blah.  :cookoo:

After about 6 months, when I broke it off (she was getting VERY clingy), people at work and friends of hers that I had never met were telling me I was a piece of shiat, "How could you do that to her?" and crap like that.   :mad:  Even years later, friends of hers were telling me how wrong I was "to treat her like that."   (BTW, we had sex MAYBE 4 times in 6 months, so it's not like I was keeping her around for banging purposes).

There was ONE person at work who knew what the situation was, and knew I was HONEST with the girl from the start.   She was crying to him one morning about me, and he said to her, "Look, HE didn't use you, YOU USED YOURSELF.   Get over it!"   

That experience left a mark on me.   I NEVER date at work.   NEVER. 

Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: Wrecent_Wryder on August 19, 2006, 07:10:00 AM
f3
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: MrDan on August 19, 2006, 09:30:32 AM
I dated the girl who sat in the cube ahead of me for about 3 months.  Didn't work out then, but a year later we started dating again and kept it a secret - noone at work knew.  Was really cool when we came back from the Bahamas a year after that and surpised everyone 'cause we were engaged :)  Got married this June, still work together (different departments now) and couldn't be happier.

Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: Codger on August 19, 2006, 10:23:49 AM
Don't fish off the company pier.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: mike_mike on August 19, 2006, 04:13:15 PM
Quote from: AlphaFire X5 on August 19, 2006, 12:23:15 AM
I have you all beat in the stupidity crowd on this one.

I asked out a co-worker. We dated (not exclusively, mind you). While she and I were dating and whatnot I asked out another co-worker. She and I dated (not exclisively, mind you).

Dating two co-workers at the same time is stupid.

Turns out, these two girls ended up having a lot in common and became best friends.

Dating two girls who are best friends is really stupid.

Dating two co-workers who are also best friends is pretty f%$king stupid.

Damn I'm stupid.

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Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: annguyen1981 on August 19, 2006, 05:11:03 PM
Quote from: mike_mike on August 19, 2006, 04:13:15 PM

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:laugh:
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: un1261 on August 20, 2006, 05:32:30 PM
 O0

never get your meat where your get your potatoes!

O0
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: groff22 on August 21, 2006, 08:07:30 AM
I asked out this girl in my department, we've been together now for 5 years.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: brett on August 21, 2006, 08:17:38 AM
I dated a chick I worked with. Actually, I was her supervisor. Looking back on it, I was pretty lucky because if it had ended bad, that could have been real bad. Of course, it was just a college job, so I probably woulda gone for it anyways. I wouldn't do it now that I've got a job I actually care about. Basically, I would say go for it if you don't care about the job.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: MrDan on August 21, 2006, 08:22:19 AM
And you work with them, not for or in charge of them.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: LimaXray on August 21, 2006, 08:51:57 AM
I've dated girls I've worked with and I've... ummm... well... yeah... girls I've worked with...  Never turned out well, NEVER.  One of two things happened everytime
1) you'll wind up getting sick of and hating each other making work suck
2) you'll wind up loving each other and your co-workers will get upset/jealous for whatever f'ing reason and spread false rumors about you two getting it on at work and what not and you'll never get a promotion making work suck
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: MrDan on August 21, 2006, 09:03:18 AM
That's why we told noone.  Actually made it a year before anyone found out.  And we were engaged by then so it was no worries.  We're actually the second marriage to result from my department here.  Must be the water.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: RVertigo on August 21, 2006, 03:44:31 PM
1. No.
2. No.

It's a bad idea...  If it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you have three choices:
Then!  If it DOES work out, you have to work with your girlfriend. :icon_confused:  It seems like a good idea, but it's not.

And either way, everyone at the company will know about it and hate you, her, or both for it.

Avoid!
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: makenzie71 on August 21, 2006, 07:24:15 PM
Quote from: annguyen1981 on August 18, 2006, 09:47:02 PM
Would you ever ask a co-worker out?

or

Have you ever asked a co-worker out?

Sure I would...when i worked at wally-world there was this cute little mexican chick that I worked with all the time.  Had I not been been in a relationship at the time I'd have been after her...which I should have been anyway since my then girlfriend was a self-centered asshat.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: aaronstj on August 21, 2006, 08:13:50 PM
That's our Mak.  :thumb:
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: natedawg120 on August 22, 2006, 12:54:14 PM
I have thought about it but for the reasons that Rvertigo stated i have not.  Plus work for me is time away from that kind of thing.  If i had to be sweet to someone at work i think i would go f-in nuts.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: RVertigo on August 22, 2006, 01:09:15 PM
My wife and I work in the same building, but not the same area...  It's cool sometimes...  But, most of the time it's just frustrating.  I can't grab, grope, squeeze, and molest her as I wish, since PDA are not PC. :nono: :icon_confused: :cry:

If we worked in the same department or area... Or even worse, the same group...  I think I'd go batty 'cause "Work Time" is nothing like "Quality Time."
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: Cal Price on August 22, 2006, 04:45:23 PM
The origional question is really much more complex if either party is a senior manager or similar, when does asking become harasment etc, probably best left alone.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: Cal Price on August 22, 2006, 04:46:34 PM
Then again, what is (or are) ethics anyway? go for it.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: annguyen1981 on August 22, 2006, 08:48:11 PM
Now that I've got two pages worth of replies...

Here's the situation...

I'm a department manager for a retail store.  She works in another department as a sales associate.  But I still KINDA have "authority".  She just left for school, but plans on being back during the winter break for a couple weeks, and possibly for next summer as well.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: MrDan on August 23, 2006, 07:22:36 AM
Go for it .. just don't hire her back :)  Let her find a job elsewhere.  Unless you want to be fired too ... probably a big no-no in the company handbook.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: ajaxgs on August 23, 2006, 07:43:46 AM
go for it ..... been there done it got the t-shirt  :thumb:
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: pantablo on August 23, 2006, 09:12:40 AM
bang her, er date her after she leaves...
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: dgyver on August 23, 2006, 09:50:51 AM
Quote from: annguyen1981 on August 22, 2006, 08:48:11 PM
Now that I've got two pages worth of replies...

Here's the situation...

I'm a department manager for a retail store.  She works in another department as a sales associate.  But I still KINDA have "authority".  She just left for school, but plans on being back during the winter break for a couple weeks, and possibly for next summer as well.

Managers should not ask out employees, even if they are not directly over them. Better check the company policy on that.


For the record...I am currently dating a girl at work. Our job duties are not directly related. Interesting that my boss wanted to set us up.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: The Buddha on August 23, 2006, 02:13:46 PM
What ... you didn't hook up with the Bimmer chick dgyver ...
Come on ... you need to give her time to bury the dead body she had in her trunk ...
Cool.
Srinath.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: dgyver on August 23, 2006, 03:05:12 PM
I almost forgot about that....yeah she may have had money.....but a little  :cookoo: It was fun having her hit on me though.

I think I would rather stay with my younger hottie.
Title: Re: Here's an ethical question...
Post by: RVertigo on August 23, 2006, 04:43:58 PM
Quote from: annguyen1981 on August 22, 2006, 08:48:11 PMI'm a department manager for a retail store.
That should read:

"I'm WIDE OPEN to be sued for sexual her-ass-ment if any woman I look at for more than 0.01 seconds decides that she's mad at me or the company."

Dude...  Really...  DON'T DO IT!  Wait until she's gone...  Really...